About two months ago I started talking to this guy on myspace. We would send long messages back and forth for about two weeks. Eventually, we started talking on the phone and we both couldn't get enough of eachother. On Thanksgiving night we ended up meeting up and we hit things off. Now we're dating long distance and we're both head over heels about one another. We see each other on the weekends and switch off and who comes to who. I just can't get enough of him. We have both grown up having very seperate lives but have so much in common. I've never felt so comfortable with someone so fast, it's crazy. We've recently talked about moving closer to one another or moving in together, but I know it hasn't been long enough. Is there such a thing as 'moving too fast' and does that still apply to couples who are completely comptatible with one another? lol It's funny cause we sometimes think the same thing before we say it.
2007-01-01 14:17:09 · 13 answers · asked by TalkingTomato 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do believe that things can move too fast, especially when you are younger than 28. I have experience with this because I like you had this same situation happen to me and we got married (because I wouldn't live with him without being married). After we were married all those things that were so much a match turned to misery. He became abusive, lazy, irresponsible, getting in trouble at work and with the law. What I would have done differently is to get to know where he is from and who he is from third-parties before I made those commitments.
Visit his family and friends. Go to the places he grew up going to. Find out what others have to say about him.
You sound pretty level-headed since you are asking yourself and others this question. Given that, use that same level-head to cross all the T's and dot all the i's before you get into something that is not easy to get out of.
2007-01-01 14:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh, sounds like the thrill of a new relationship ... when everything in the world seems rosier and you just can't get your mind of that certain someone .... while it feels great, yes you can and are rushing into a relationship too fast - be careful cause it can become overwhelming with it being too much too soon. I would suggest you guys enjoy the newness but don't rush into anything yet ... give it a few months to develop and see if you still feel the same way - it's amazing how many couples break up in the 3 to 5 month mark of a relationship ... why? Because they realize they aren't rally in love with the other person - nothing wrong with it, just the way it goes and if it's not working, why waste time. On the other hand, some things worth having are worth waiting for. I would sugges you guys continue to keep in contact but also have your own interests/lives - it's all about balance and you don't want to risk losing yourself.
2007-01-01 14:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people first meet, they are both acting. really think about it. Every person sees themselves differently than everybody else sees them. So when you meet somebody new it's naturall to try and influence the perception. Like guys will open doors and use best behavior and say all the right things. women do the same. That usally causes a high level of excitement. After you get to know each other a lil more it will cool off and slowly but surely you'll see each other for who you really are. That's when you really get to know each other. That's why it's important to be friends first. be friends long enough for the initial "be good" phase wears off. Any person who is not willing to be your friend first isnt worth dating anyway. Lots of relationships fail or are just unhappy becasue when they finally got to really know the person it was too late. Take your time.
2007-01-01 14:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must remember the 3 month rule and it starts when you physically spend time together. So for you it started on Thanksgiving. Now the rule is that people tend to take about 3 months if not sooner to show their true self. So wait on that. All people are on their best behavior in the beginning its not until they start feeling more comfortable to show the not so great side of themselves. And we ALL have that side. So cool your heals on the moving part that can create horrendous consequences if done to soon. If it is real then the rite time will present it self and it won't be rite around the corner. Have fun with each other, see each other on the weekends and take the moving down thoughts way down. One day at a time not hurried futures. Stay strong and Good luck.
2007-01-01 14:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by bronz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever experienced a " Relationship " moving too fast ? Yes.
Once, on a second date while dining the man said to me " If I knew you any longer I'd be proposing marriage to you ".
Another man, after three weeks of dating said " I'm not going to buy (such and such) item, because I'm saving up for an engagement ring for a certain woman".
Needless to say...I didn't continue dating those men. And...I choose much more wisely now before even accepting a date from a man.
Don't mind sharing my heart and love with a man...just would choose that he truly KNOW me before expressing words such as those men did.
The heart is too precious not be to be patient for. No need to rush...take time to discover authentically what each other is about.
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2007-01-01 14:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! This is a perfect exmaple of moving too fast! Slow down..pump your brakes! Ive been there and done that..The same thing.Except I slowed down on time.Its new love, of course you're head over heels and your heart pumps faster just thinking about hiM! Feels great! Seems wonderful! So comfrtable and everything couldnt be better! Right? BUT reality check...YOU DONT KNOW HIM LIKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DO...You know him to a certain extent, but ask yourself does he REALLY know you? As much as he knows you is as much as you know him! Maybe less! You've talked and met but it takes more then a month to REALLY get to know somebody.Sometimes more then 6 months! Sometimes years! Anyway you get the point.You guys should still date and get to know each other wayyyy more.Be together for a while and know what you guys are all about before you go making a decision couples of 3 years make! Have fun, dont go and play house just yet :) LOL Who knows it could be your soul mate! I wish you the best of luck, but Take your time.It'll be time for all of that! I promise! Its easy to fall but its hard to get back up! Dont go through something you just dont have to go through.Feel him out...Go out on alot of dates...ask alot of questions...about his past..hisn family..friends..EVERYTHING! Nothing is too much, when u are trying to figure out who someone is! :)
2007-01-01 14:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon. If he keeps being blinded via her then perhaps for awhile yet moving on too speedy like it somewhat is loopy. dropping by the wayside of school is likely one in each and every of the main important mistake he did. What in the event that they start to have a kinfolk? How is he going to assist her interior the destiny as a results of fact now a days, sturdy paying jobs want a sturdy training historic past.
2016-10-19 08:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is such a thing as "moving too fast" and i believe you guys are moving SUPER fast. take your time, you are infatuated with him and do not move in with him. you need time to know him before you make a big mistake.
2007-01-01 14:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are just very compatible people.
I would give him the time test still. Time tends to weed out the ******* who are looking for a quick lay.
It can happen though. You have to believe in love for it to happen.
2007-01-01 14:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes we have --- we basically started talking --- its long distance (15,000 km ) as well --- we will be meeting soon --- and it was love at hello and since then we have just kept getting closer
when i leave her country i think she will be coming with me for good
2007-01-01 14:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋