I have fallen in love with a girl friend of mine, but she keeps going back to her ****** ex bf, even tho she knows its wrong, she can't seem to help herself. It pains me to watch, and it seems to be getting harder and harder to try to deal with the situation.
He doesn't like her talking to me either btw, so when they are together, he wants her not to communicate with me.
2007-01-01 14:03:00 · 13 answers · asked by ezrax7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes its hard to let go of an ex. It does sound like she doesn't know what she wants. If it hurts too much ask her to make a decision and if she chooses him let her go now before your feelings get to deep. If she picks you then she needs to stop communicating with him.
2007-01-01 14:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want the things we can't have. She probably still hopes that the relationship with her ex will work out. And even though her ex bf is a jerk, there probably are times that he is nice to her that you don't hear about (she probably comes to you when she has problems with him and needs someone to talk to).
Of course he doesn't like her talking to you, he probably knows you will say bad things about him since you like her as well. You just have to let her relationship with the other guy take it's course since she's not over him yet and as painful as it is for you to watch, she has to make the decision on her own and learn through her own experience.
2007-01-01 22:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not her white knight. She is going to have to figure out this bf of hers is an a$$hole and she is going to have to be the one to finally end it.
There is nothing you can do but be her friend. However, make sure you are not unintentionally being used by her as someone who can pump her ego up, then she runs back to the idiot b/f.
Because I know a guy this happened to for years, and finally when the girl left the idiot b/f she did not go for my friend, she found another guy instead.
So, he waited around all that time in love waiting to be the best thing that ever happened to her and it never happened at all.
Oh sure she kept him around as her support so she could be told how wonderful she is....but that's about it.
2007-01-01 22:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is still in love with him, and cannot help her actions due to it, she think perhaps that if she love him and stay near him she could possibly change him? I know how painful it is to watch girl you love date a prick, I had deal with it last summer and it was hard, I wanted punch the guy in the face. I suggest you try telling her he is better off left alone and try and show her what you can give her that he cannot
2007-01-01 22:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may really like her, and your attraction to her may be completely true... but...
don't mistake honest attraction with the desire to "save" her. Often nice guys put themselves in this sort of situation, and it's hard to see when you're in the middle of it.
The scenario basically goes like this --
Nice Guy is friends with Girl. Girl is dating Bad Boyfriend. Bad Boyfriend treats Girl poorly -- very poorly. Nice Guy normally wouldn't be interested in someone like Girl, but he sees what she goes through and knows that she deserves someone better (which she probably does). He mistakes that for attraction, fights to help her break away from Bad Boyfriend, and then starts dating her, only to realize that she's not his type at all, he isn't attracted to her at all, and she has major self-esteem issues that can't be solved by all Nice Guy's sweetness and affection.
Please don't fall into this trap.
2007-01-01 22:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That situation doesn't just limit itself to teenage years. I've encountered this situation in my mid-twenties. In my personal opinion and just my opinion (I could be wrong) I always got the idea that maybe she's scared. She keeps going back to him because she's scared that she can't do any better than the jerk she's with so she stays with him. Kind of like a comfort blanket. I could be (and hopefully am) wrong.
2007-01-01 22:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by DLG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks. idk how hes an ****** but i know guys like this and their douche bags. girls seem to do this a lot and it sucks because us being guys know what the ex is doing. usually hes just using her and it sucks when you see a girl friend of yours fall for this trap. tell her how you feel about it, maybe she will realize you are right even though she probably wont because she thinks he has 'changed' or whatever. tell her your feelings for her and tell her you can treat her better than this guy if she just gives you a chance. you never know until you try. good luck.
2007-01-01 22:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why bother ,she likes the bad boy move on or she will end up hurting you more than now when she leaves you to be with the ****** find a nice girl i think there still out there it more difficult to find these days though
2007-01-01 22:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by augydoggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing you can do is to tell her you will always be there for you and that you hope she's is happy where she is.
Don't try to go and tell her what a prick he is, you will end up pushing her farther.
YOu can only just be there for her and hope she figures our you are the better choice.
2007-01-01 22:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are learning a valuable lesson, chicks like guys who treat them like crap. Even as an ex, she still has feelings and still is porking the guy. Meanwhile, you the nice guy, are getting only his "seconds"! Man, grow balls and drop kick this slutt to the curb. Next time, be the ****** boyfriend that treats woman like crap.
2007-01-01 22:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋