Thanks guys for all the remarks from my earlyer post i wish this was here way before... But i admit i have not been a honest boy in my last relationship but about 3 years ago i got my ex a job at this local movie plex. this dude that worked there was calling her all the time while i was with her and then one day i was hanging out with this guy she did not like a friend of mine and she broke up with me and started to hang out with the guy from the movie plex. after two days she had oral sex with him after 2.5 years of us being together... i think the title of being b/f g/f and say you are broken up is just words if you really cared would you let someone have oral sex with you? its how you feel about that person she said the whole time he was doing to to her she could only think of me? what do you guys think two days to me is not very long to know if you care or don't care and then she got back together with me... I know i am a sucker...
2007-01-01 14:01:27 · 22 answers · asked by Tony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok but she thanks becuase she thought or thinks we where broken up that it wasn't and i admit i was unfaithful a few times... she even accused me of giving her a std but i got a test and it was negative when i moved back to here i am now...
2007-01-01 14:11:34 · update #1
Normally, I am against cheating, and this would normally qualify. However, since you NEED to ask, I'll infer you are not very quick. So, that being said...
She was just being nice to you after what i assume was a sorry, crying and whimpering filled confrontation. Move on, she has.
2007-01-01 14:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by detroit al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The keywords there are "she broke up with me", before the so-called cheating happened.
Technically, if you were broken up, then no. It wasn't cheating. I would never tell my boyfriend that I'm breaking up with him unless I meant it. It's not "just words". It is the end of a relationship. She had her reasons for doing it.
As for why she would do something like that only two days after ending a two and a half year relationship, only she knows. My only guess would be that she was seeking some kind of attention and physical closeness because she was feeling badly.
Since you have gotten back together, I think that you should either discuss the situation with her if it bothers you this much, or just put it behind you and move on.
Either way, good luck.
2007-01-01 14:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two days is moving way too fast, if you are with someone for 2 1/2 years and then two days after breaking up you are letting someone go down on you. Thats just something you dont do. I can't believe you took her back after that, I mean only you can live your life and know what you are willing to put up with and if you think that she can make up for that then more power to you, but no two days is not long enough to go running off and having sex with some other guy. Trust me you dont just let some guy go down on you, she did more than that and is probably too embarrased to tell you or she's got that much guilt behind it. You should make her get checked before you have sex with her again. Sorry that you had to go through this, Have a great year!
2007-01-01 14:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2.5 years is a long time and not just 2 days they are having oral sex with some1 else to me it sounds like they can get over someone that fast isn't worth being with, no your not a sucker for taking them bak your in love and love just dont go away in a second nevermind 2 days so jst watch your bak and maybe have a sit down with them and ask them to explain why and how they could of done what they did after only 2 days
good luck
2007-01-01 14:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not cheating, not even if you guys broke up 1 minute ago, there is no determined set of time a person has to wait before getting with someone else, but if she had really cared for you then no she would not have done that so quickly. not saying this to hurt you but b/f g/f is just words people like to hear for assurances and they mean different things to different people. In your case I think you were treated badly and that your letting her play you for a fool. If you were smart you'd break up with her right now before she damages you further.
2007-01-01 14:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's the sucker, lol. I personally do not think 2 days is a long enough time to get over a breakup. Some people just cope with it differently.
2007-01-01 14:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
technically it is not cheating b/c ur were on a break. But the chick is nasty for sayign that the entire time during the sex act that she was thinking of you.....that is without a doubt a lie. But you should move on and get over it. do not try to work it out b/c this person will only casue you pain. remember, it only took two days for someone else to take ur place.....
2007-01-01 14:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by cuteGIRL01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From having experience with screwing up a really good love I would say you both cheated yourselves out of love. She for trying to find a distraction to not feel the emptiness and you for wanting to know how far they went. You both disrespected yourselves, from where I'm standing anyways. Learn and make better choices with your lesson. When you feel love, whether it's for a person or just a path your on that makes you elated, embrace it like there ain't no tomorrow...ya never know, there might not be. No second guessing.
2007-01-01 14:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by peacegypsy@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to learn from our mistakes in life, and maybe that was one of her mistakes. She probably really does love you from what it sounds like and just messed up and had this sexual fling, or what do they call it, a rebound, to try to get over you. You guys just need to be open and have a deep heart to heart talk. Hope it works out for ya'll.
2007-01-01 14:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by sickeninghairloss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she was thinking of you she wouldnt have let him keep doing it and if she really cared she wouldnt have dumped u cause of how someone else act i think that was a excuse to get with the movie boy/2 wrongs dont make a right
2007-01-01 14:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by lil lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋