we were serious about this relationship and now he wants to meet me .i do like him but he's not too good looking as i wanted..wat should i do?
2007-01-01 13:57:42 · 22 answers · asked by unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like him, why does the "looks" part matter so much. If you really like him & he is good guy, the "looks" part will be secondary. Keep him, as long as he is safe & not a criminal.
2007-01-01 14:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start a romantic relationship with someone you've never met in real life. You're just asking for trouble.
And just because you have known him online for a year doesn't mean that you really know who he is. People can very easily hide behind a computer screen and keyboard. I have met friends that I had talked to online and have been shocked at how different they are in person. Prepare yourself for that possibility. Also, protect yourself. If you do plan on meeting him, bring people that you trust with you and meet on some "neutral" grounds in a public place -- a coffeeshop or bookstore works well, because there are plenty of people around and you can leave if you need to.
As far as his physical looks go, if it really matters to you... if he is so hideous that you can't stand to look at him, then don't pursue anything. You shouldn't lead someone on and make them think that they have a chance for some sort of relationship if that isn't your intention at all. Just some things to think about.
2007-01-01 22:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet each other in a public place with a friend nearby and have a nice chat. If you still feel uncomfortable, then it wont work out and simply say its been nice meeting you but I must hurry to catch up with my friend. Email me tonight! And keep the whole thing on the emails as a friendship.
2007-01-01 22:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by miladybc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're going to have to meet him eventually, and the difference of months probably won't change his appearence. Unfortunate as this sounds, you have to be SOMEWHAT physically attracted to someone for it to work out. Always remember to be safe when meeting someone you met offline in person, meet in a public place where you two will not be alone. Have a friend standing by to call or an excuse to get out of there if you need it.
2007-01-01 22:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by epop08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all...looks shouldn't be everything even though society thinks so...and second of all --- you can't be serious? How do you know this guy is not some crazy ax murderer or something? I mean he could be a regular guy but do you know how many creepy people there are on the internet? I wouldn't take my chances unless you're absolutely sure that he's really an ok guy.
2007-01-01 23:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by sickofitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've spent to much time talking on the internet and to little time dealing with the real world,real situations and REAL people. I can also tell that you've spent to much time in your computer lingo,you can't even spell a grammatically correct sentence.
Since you two are a distance away,further yourself.Go out,don't be online so much,and when you do sign on,have conversations that purtain to your distance and you might want to explain the relationship isn't exactly what you expected. Next time,make greater expectations and you can definitely see what you are getting by actually meeting a person face to face,going out,and getting to know them that way.
2007-01-01 22:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being a mom, I would say 1. just tell him you want to be friends. But looks aren't everything either. You have to be very careful with meeting people on the web. If you truly want to meet him then go with a friend. But if not just tell him that you just want to be friends.
2007-01-01 22:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In regards to your comment of " he's not too good looking", I'll say that beauty is within, it's what's on the inside that counts. As far as meeting him, go with your instincts, but be careful.
Good luck!
2007-01-01 22:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think net-dating is lame. Go out and meet people, I can guarantee that one will not find a good relationship off of net-dating.
2007-01-01 21:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if something as superficial as his looks are making you unsure of your feelings for him or whether or not you want to be with him at all then you need to rethink this whole thing. Don't do it. It isn't right. If it was then you wouldn't be worried about something so superficial. I know that sounds harsh, and I'm sorry if it does. I'm just giving you an honest opinion.
2007-01-01 22:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋