There's a mutual attraction between myself & younger man. I'm close to age to his mom. I would like to get answers from people who've been there & for people who are still in that relationship.
Need to know what worked, what didn't work in your relationship.
I'm fully aware each individual and couple is different. We have different ways of doing things and such. Serious answers please. Urgent!
2007-01-01 13:57:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 44 yr.
2007-01-01 14:10:47 · update #1
Get some advice from his Mom.
2007-01-01 13:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 11 years older than my bf. We've been together almost 2 years. It is weird sometimes, when I am "reminded" of the age difference, his mom had a birthday party for me and put a 3 and 9 candles on my cake, I could have done without that! Or when we play Scene It or some other pop culture game with our friends, of course we always win but it makes me feel "old". And I have to stop myself sometimes from telling him what he should do (avoid mistakes I made at his age)
But our emotional and mental age are similar, we have a lot in common, we've both had some crappy relationships, so we have respect and trust for one another.
It works for us. Sometimes I wonder for how long but I really try to focus on the "now" and just be happy.
It really helps to have the friends and family accept the relationship, but I think that helps ANY relationship.
2007-01-01 14:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 year age gap?
If he's legal why not give it a go.
It can work.
Love knows no boundaries and age is merely a boundary of our own perception.
I know a couple of girls who are 20 years older than me and they are hot! Our personalities are different so they won't work with me but the personalities are the factors, not the ages.
One thing to consider however is, if he's less than around 40, he may one day want kids and this could cause a problem.
I know that older women are more fun as they often don't have the insecurities of younger ones.
Go for it girl!
2007-01-01 14:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Live In Girlfriend Is 20 yrs Younger Than Me. Been Together
5 Yrs ,No Problems
We Love & Respect Each Other
2007-01-01 14:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Howard B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a man who was 19 years my senior. we were together for five years and are still great friends. the fact that you are friends with his mom first could pose a problem from the mother's point of view. I would say that if 1) you re both of legal age and 2) if you don't think his mother would object to the point of it causing problems for all of you, then go for it.
2007-01-01 14:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by wingedgelfling27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it will work if that's what you both want.I've been with my b/f for 6 years and things couldn't be better.he's 19 years older than i.we have several things in common.we have a great time together.he has his own place and i have mine,,with 2 teenage girls.the girls and i cook and he comes over and watches TV and eats with us a couple times a week.when my kids go stay the night with friends i go to his house.he respects my house and girls.if we go to each others house we call first.he knows my girls come first before anything else including him.
our relationship is very special,we respect each others privacy.
if your love is strong enough for one another nothing else matters .
go with your heart,if you feel fine with it then i say go for it,we only live once , be yourself and make life worth living for.
p.s my man is the same age as my mother.she's happy with my decision.
2007-01-01 14:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by "work" - do you mean marriage? I was GF with a much older guy like that last summer, it worked fine for what it was, but we never meant for it ot be permanent. The relationship part was weird sometimes and physical too was gr8
2007-01-01 14:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely.. it truly is a sturdy question.. If the spark is there, then it would want to very last. yet.. keep in thoughts, even as the 40 3 year previous is 80 3, the 23yr previous might want to be 60.. scary.. nicely wish it helped not right now
2016-12-01 10:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm male, older and have had relationships/marriages both ways.
the older woman in my life gave me peace and stability, we divided responsibilities and it was good, but when she decided she wanted the white house with picket fence thing, I was still having the growing thing and we parted, she did find someone more settled(and closer to her age).
the younger one kept up better with an active lifestyle.
good luck.
2007-01-01 14:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by mystk1111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my lady is younger than my youngest daughter but we dont look at the age gap we look at how we feel and we care for each other and love each other very much ---- ask me again in 20 or 30 years if it has worked out
2007-01-01 14:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe that there is a good answer to this as I don't know all the facts, but short answer is I don't see what it matters if you two are alike and have alot in commen.
2007-01-01 14:11:18 · answer #11 · answered by utahbugtussel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋