I'm in love with this girl. I met her a few years ago at school, but she isn't actually in my year. We never spoke at all, simply being because I didn't have the guts to speak up. I gave up because I knew a sucker like me wouldn't ever get something going with a girl like that. It's not because I'm not good looking, it's just generally because I'm not a people person. Anyway, I always used to smile and things whenever I saw her, it's this crush I always kept to myself.
I kept it too late, and now she's in a relationship. I'm severly pissed to find out that this has been going on for a while, about a year now. They don't get on well though. So I saw her again recently, and I love her as much as I did then. I'm usually not a lovey sort of guy, but this girl really has a hold on my heart. She's got a wonky relationship, and I feel like a complete dumbass having missed the opportunity to speak with her. She doesn't live near me, we're actually an hour away. Anyone help?
2007-01-01 13:53:17 · 15 answers · asked by Brandon R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I've known her for two years. Not really like, serious. Enough to know that I actually do like her. She barely knows me. Maybe it's just a crush, but I've had it for years. I'd rather call it desperation.
Thanks for the answers everyone. It's been a big help. I think I'll try to make her realize me a bit more, just incase I didn't make it obvious. I can't pick a best answer, since they all helped me.
2007-01-01 14:04:39 · update #1
Love and infatuation are two entirely different things.
If she is in a relationship, it is best to just let her be.
One thing I have learned from experience is that the longer you have a crush, your expectations actually get too high, and they'll never be able to meet them.
It doesn't really sound like there is a chance of things working out. You should just let it go.
If at some point she does become single again, then I'd say you should speak up so you don't miss another chance. And if you can't do it then... well, then there's no point even bothering with it at all.
2007-01-01 13:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, shut that voice up that keeps telling you that you're not good enough for her. Make sure she knows you are available and tell someone who knows her that you'll be there to catch her when she falls out of this relationship. Just remember that sometimes crushes are better as dreams. How well do you know her? She may be the one. Let her in on your ideas then leave it alone and the rest will take care of itself. Good Luck! =)
2007-01-01 14:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you just aren't infatuated with her? Love is something that comes from knowing someone.... Love at first sight is just a romantic notion but not actually real. If you really do have serious feelings tell her. You have nothing to loose but time and her. I was in love and didn't tell the person how I felt and I kick myself everyday. You have to tell her. Do it soon. Don't over do it just let her know. Good luck to you.
2007-01-01 13:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worst: I had a weigh down in this guy stated as Sham, and he liked me back and we've been going to start courting, yet then i found out he had a girl pal, and grew to become into an entire liar approximately each and every thing and that i felt poor. =( superb: I observed this guy at a social gathering, yet I lost him interior the team earlier I had a probability to talk to him, and he grew to become into extremely lovable so i grew to become into bummed out. So i finished up going out on the balcony just to get some air and be on my own, and the guy got here out and located me. That grew to become right into slightly better than 4 years in the past, and that boy and that i are nevertheless mutually. ?
2016-10-06 07:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean.
I really really really like this one
guy I didn't even plan to like and
didn't know I did, til I was thinking of him more then
my own boyfriend. And I'm really shy.
and It was the last day before Christmas break
and I wanted to talk to him because we do
all the time on the internet. So he walked by me about to leave,
I had nothing to say, so all I said was Hi. It's not much, but now I'm not scared anymore. Just talk to her even if its just saying hi.
2007-01-01 13:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww i think that is sooo cute well i say don't lose hope and always try to be friend step up don't say anything while shes in a relationship with this guy.. and if they aren't getting along well juss try to help her and stuff and shell notice you, if she doesn't then try to tell her about how you feel and if she doesn't accept you and all, move on cuz u did what ur supposed to and things aren't in ur hands. yes it will hurt but at least its a step to moving on in ur life,
2007-01-01 14:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by perfection is what i chase.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure ur in LOVE? how can you be in love with someone you never really spoke with.. you probably dont even know anything about her. its lust to me...
well the same thing kinda happened to me. i guess the best thing to do is to just move on.. harsh.. but true. its best you tell her how you feel too.. maybe she feels the same way?
2007-01-01 14:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by :] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest that u definetly go and just tell her how much u love her . her answer has to be yes, because true love always finds its way... so just go ahead and think positive u will get her for sure
2007-01-01 14:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by asma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you see her without her guy have some confidence and talk to her dont ever think your not good enough for someone just go for it and talk to her
2007-01-01 13:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you fell because than you will feel a lot better about the situation
2007-01-01 13:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋