When my daughter first started dating an african-american man, I couldn't have been happier. All her life I taught her about the horrors of slavery and the greatness of the god-kings like Martin Luther King Jr and Rosa Parks. I'm a progressive liberal so I am more enlightened then your average american. I was so happy, I even didn't mind the age difference. She is 18 and he is 39. But my problem is that I think this man is taking advantage of her. He made her stop going to college so she could earn him money. She used to work as a waitress but that wasn't enough money for him so now she is a stripper. Worse, he lets his friends sleep with her but they have to pay him. I know this is societies fault so I don't blame them. Also, he had beaten her in the past, but I couldn't possible understand his rage. Sadly, she recently contracted HIV from one of the men and her boyfriend fliped out. He assualted me and said I owed him. I gave him some money but he said it wasn't enough. What can I do
2007-01-01 13:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can stop posting b.s. questions and ask some real ones
2007-01-01 14:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by sweet sweet me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noo that's crazy. Im an african american and I can't picture somebody doing that. I know that people actually do that out there but he needs to grow up. Even though he's 39 he should be setting a good example instead of being a nut case it's not fair to you and her. They should seriously stop seeing each other because he's already ruined a young ladies life by giving her HIV he's no man if he lets other men sleep with her. If he loved her she would only sleep with him and him only no matter what. It's not about the money. This guy needs to be dumped if he threatens you again call the police and get a restraining order. Good luck and i hope this helps
2007-01-01 22:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear enlightened one, you taught your daughter well. She might have HIV and no education but at least she received a true liberal and enlightened upbringing. Congratulations!
What can you do? Well do you have a job or are you on welfare? If you are on welfare you might be able to get a job and get paid under the table and give the poor man the money. You are right, it isn't his fault after all, it is society's and yours. If you already have a job, try to get a second job to get the money for him.
BTW, I recognize your sarcasm, take my answer in the same way.
2007-01-01 22:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by scarlettt_ohara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well i have a big issue for you letting him abuse you...all you are teaching her is to let him intimidate you as a woman.....and just because you are a liberal dosn't mean any thing and neither does any skin color all races have their problems i have dated plenty of men of different colors and they all have there flaws so please take the color and not be judgemental be happy for her if she is happy.....also all you did was teach her that to take the abuse....you need to stand upo him...because if she has hiv tell him that its his fault and no one elses he's the one that prostituted your daughter out and now he may have it....i don't feel sorry for her she lets him do these things to her and lets him run her life you did what you thought was right by when you raised her and now she needs to stand up for her self....and be a real woman...i have been abused and also been the abuser so i have been on both sides....but only because of the person that beat me when i was 17 he was 29 he abused me for 2 years and the last person i was with we were abusive twards each other.....so the guy i was with when i was 17 tought me to stick up for my self and that no man would ever touch me so she needs to learn how to give a little loving touch back....and maybe he wouldn't treat her like crap......and thats whats wrong with alot of the women today that are abused they don't know how to get the man in his sleep with a bat....it m ay not kill him but it does give you the chance to get away from him and it will make him madder than hell.......but please if you are worried about her well being give her a safe place to stay and a good home....be a parent for crying out loud and help your daughter out and not let her man scare you....
2007-01-01 22:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are out of your bloody mind, you realize? First problem was letting her date such an older man. What else are guys going to do?? Made her drop out of school? Warning bell two. Making her work as a stripper, honestly! Did you sit idle by and do nothing? Where else would she go from there but into prostitution! Yes, it is her decision to do this, but you are her father and her guide. It sounds like you are in denial concerning understanding his rage. You don't have to understand, you have to accept it and love your daughter. Get your daughter out of that realtionship and get her help. Now.
2007-01-03 18:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by ladywood128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do some thing to stop that relationship wether its calling the police or talking her out of it
if she relly loves this man and he relly loves her then theyll come to an aggreement
i had the same problem w/ my sis & her husband he 's a drugattic and abused her she never came to her senses but we have still been beggin her for a divorce its always like there fighting one day and happy the next. but im sorry if u came help her
2007-01-01 22:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by hanna111greenday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her to me. I will marry her anyways and make her go to church and become a bible carring woman and she will in turn go back to school and become very educated and run for office and represent your area and turn the district into a very weathy area who in turn will support her in her quest for the President of the United States of America then she can end the war in Iraq and help bring peace to the world.
2007-01-01 22:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police and report the situation. Get her help and get her out of that abusive relationship. She needs to learn to love and respect herself. This is not societies fault. She needs help.
2007-01-01 22:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by epkinvegas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never met an African American . Only Americans who were black. If they put African first maybe they should go try to live there.
2007-01-01 22:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the cops, how could you have let him do this to her?
2007-01-01 23:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋