ok so my family doesnt like my fiance, they liked my last bf who was abusive towrds(physically and verbally), but he was really good to me infront of people and they think i made up every thing i said about him, and m husband has never done anything to hurt me, he doesnt hit me and he doesnt yell at me and he still treats me good when we are at hime, and my family doesnt like him but they have never even given him a chance, his whole family is good to me and they treat me as if i was one of their children, but my family just wont give him the time of day and as a result of that they dont speak to me.they wernt there when i had either of my children, they didnt come to my sons fuenaral, and they arnt commin to my wedding,what should i do about this whole situation, and they wont come to see my new baby girl, so what should i do???
2007-01-01 13:49:25 · 6 answers · asked by livie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm talkin like being beatin with brooms, bats what ever he could get his hand on, breaking bones and he was so like "mr.wonderful" infront of my family, and when i told them why i finaly left when i got the chance, he used to have his friends record what he did to me and i showed them to my fiance and thay made him cry, (does that sound like a bad guy to you??)
2007-01-01 14:00:40 · update #1
I'm really sorry to hear about your family. They need to be supportive of you whatever decision you make. My father was also verbally abusive, but was always an angel in front of his family. Now they don't understand why I don't speak to him anymore. This is your life so you live it just the way you want. It's ashame that they don't give him a chance, but that's their loss. Don't lose too much sleep over it...maybe they'll come around...good luck :)
2007-01-01 13:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, your family dosent have to like him YOU DO.It would be great if they did, but they dont.Dont cry over spilled milk.Its really nothing you can do, but try and make them like him. So he dosent put up a great act of who he really isnt, but he loves YOU and makes YOU happy...I say if anybody else cant see it or if anybody else dosent like it...it's their problem, not urs. He treats you good and you love him.Maybe sooner or later they'll come around to seeing that you guys really are meant to be and they'll change things up towards him, but if they dont...its ok because you still love him and he still loves you.Im so sorry to hear about your loss. Your parents SHOULDNT be doing this to you.They should accept your decision, like it or not. They should love you regardless of who you're with. They dont have anything to do with him, but YOU...you're thier daughter..thier BLOOD.Nothing is thicker than blood.If you feel like you and your fiance will make it through a lifetime together I SAY GO FOR IT! If your parents cant accept that, its their loss.Their wrong, not you sweety.Dont blame yourself.You're just a woman in love.Whats wrong with that? Not coming to your child's funeral is a very big thing...I dont think thats acceptable.Just walk away from it all.I know its so hard to do because their your parents BUT DAMN...that just draws the line! They didnt go to their grandchild's funeral...All because they dont like ur fiance? Even if you get to know them again and be happy, you'll probally wishes you wouldnt have.Its not an easy thing to put behind you and act like everything is dandy! I wish you all the best of luck! If you need to contact me for some support or wutever..my email is RubenandIliana@Gmail.com.
2007-01-01 14:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I would say this will always be an on going proplem. If your family feels that way why do you keep needing ththeir in put or attention. If you are happy then be content with that also get yourself some counseling. I think it would really help. Good Luck.
2007-01-01 13:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Dr Phil.
Sorry this may sound a little sarcastic but its not. If you don't want to go to Dr Phil, then have a mediator. Cause there is always 2 sides to a story and judging from your story, youre not telling everything.
Still extend an invitation to them anyway, and of they refuse, then move on with your life.
goodluck!
2007-01-01 13:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
who cares what ur family thinks, u r the one that is with him
2007-01-01 13:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by unique_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you are still thinking about them, i thought i was patience, but i have to say bravo you won it.
2007-01-01 15:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋