I am currently involved in a long distance relationship with a wonderful man. We met when I was living in England and we dated for a year but then I had to come back to Canada and we decided that we would have a long distance relationship. He came over to visit at Thanskgiving and is planning to get a work permit to move over here in the spring. Lately though, I am getting very jealous and possesive of him. He spent this past Christmas Eve and New Year's eve with a friend of his who happens to be a girl he used to be in love with. I never got to meet her because she was living in New Zealand when I was in England but now she is back and I hate it that they are spending time together. He has reassured me a number of times that I have nothing to worry about, and that he loves me and is faithful to me but I still have my worries. He is starting to get really mad about my jealousy and has even admitted that its driving him away from me. How do I get control of my emotions? HELP!
2007-01-01 13:48:21 · 9 answers · asked by Core 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just STOP. Even if you hang up the phone and scream afterwards - that is a relationship killer. I have been with my husband for a while, and I used to be real jealous. I finally decided that it was a waste of my energy and time. I just stopped. If he said he was going somewhere with the guys (and I knew there would be girls there) I would say okay and smile. I ask him to call when he's heading home so I don't worry about him and he does. It feels sooooo much better not to worry. The thing is, I know how special I am. I know that I am hot, intelligent, sexy, etc. He'd be an idiot to screw this up. Sometimes he'll get a phone call, and I'll say who was that? He'll say, it was my girlfriend, then grin. So I say "Did you tell her you are moving in this weekend, and your wife get's half of everything?" Just know who you are, and trust him until you actually HAVE a reason not too. Apologize now for acting so crazy, and tell him it must have been something in the air, or something that you ate. Tell him you are happy that he's got a friend up there to talk to while ya'll are apart, and that you can't wait to meet her. Then kill her with kindness too. She's only a threat if you let her be.
2007-01-01 13:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be a little worried, too but the bottom line is, if he really loves you, nothing will make him cheat. If he does, then he's an unfaithful jerk and is just going to do the same thing to this other girl and you'll be better off. The best thing you can do is vent to a friend (or us!) and keep your feelings of jealousy out of your conversations with him. If he really is a good guy then he's just going to feel like you don't trust him and that would drive anyone away. I wish I could make you feel better but you're going to have to kinda bite the bullet until he's here in the spring and you'll have him all to yourself! Just keep that in mind whenever you feel like you're going to explode!!
2007-01-01 13:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is emotional torture. I went through a relationship similar to this for almost seven years. He needs to commit and bring you both closer and get the past out of your lives.
My ex boyfriend, would go to see his ex girlfriend, then come see me.
It took him nearly 5 years to tell me he loves me, that was after I threatened to end our relationship.
Needless to say, I could not live with his emotion games any longer. After 7 yrs. we split up, not even 1 1/2 later I met the love of my life.
2007-01-01 13:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that,ive never had any luck with long distance relationships and it sound like to me that hes havin some pretty good times with his ex? always trust your gut feeling,because 9 out of 10 times your gut feeling is what you need to listen too! you may have to call your relationship off but hey its not realy love if you feel that way,think about it,if you were in love and you knew that you were supposed to be together do you think you would feel the way you do?if you cant trust him know then what makes you think you cant trust him down the road if you were to get married
2007-01-01 14:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by ss/rs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now, girl if you known him for a long time you don't have to worry about it. but if the girl is coming over allot dressing up for apparently for no reason then you need to fight back. not physically, just remind him why he liked you, and if your jealousy kicks in take along relaxing day at your favorite place. It should calm down.
2007-01-01 13:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurlie dont Even worry bout that other girl i don't know why u gettin jealous cuz although he going 2 visit another girl just keep in your mind i have him nobodi else does so u have nuthin else 2 worri bout
2007-01-01 13:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Chris breezy and Ashanti 4 eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as a long distance relationship. in arkansas we call his visits to you a booty call. if you want a real relationship you have to be able to see,touch,and feel your partners touch,distance does not make the heart grow fonder, only colder and more alone.
2007-01-01 13:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Terry S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with a bottle of rum
2007-01-01 13:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with me
2007-01-01 13:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Francis Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋