I dont know what to do. Ive been dating this guy for over a year now and i love him a lot. but it really hurts me when he talks about his ex-girlfriends. i dont know if its jealousy or what, but it really bothers me. we just told each other things that were private things you dont normally talk about. ive never told anyone, but he has. he told his ex-girlfriend when they were going out because she asked him, but he didnt tell me until now and we've been going out for a year and month now. he said he was ashamed of it, but i dont understand why he couldnt have told me when he says that im the only one hes really felt comfortable with. i asked him one time about the private thing and he told me that he doesnt (but the way he got around this was because he HAS but he doesnt do it anymore). i consider that lieing and even if it wasnt, how could he tell someone who hes not comfortable with something personal like that instead of me, the person he says he cares so much about.
2007-01-01 13:38:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, I think that your a little bit of both but its perfectly acceptable for you to feel the way you do. I don't think that he should EVER bring up a past relationship because it will never do any good. When you start a relationship, you should really block the past out, if hes not friends with his ex's then he shouldnt talk about them. My husband and I do not ever talk about a past "lover" unless some1 asks a simple question like how long were u with him/her...technically its none of your business so he shouldnt bring it up! Just like u dont bring up ur ex's. I'd tlak to him about it and let him know how you feel...Good luck!
2007-01-01 13:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe there are things in his past that he is ashamed of and thinks if he tells you you will think less of him. Somethings people are careful about saying because if you guys are no longer together then you will know something about him that is very personal. My suggestion is to chill out enjoy the relationship and stop being so insecure.
2007-01-01 13:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by ~♥Aimee♥~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't tell you because he was afraid he'd lose you if he was honest. He must have thought his ex wouldn't have cared about that issue so he felt comfortable telling her about it. The point is he told you and trusted you enough to tell you now. Remember, he's with you now, so don't be jealous about it!
2007-01-01 13:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its easier to talk to someone else other then the person your with, i wouldn't worry too much about it unless it keeps happening, maybe if you two sat down one day and just told eachother things that you would normally not tell anyone it will make him more comfortable with you, you know how men are, they dont like talking about their feels much just help him out and let him know that you are their just to listen and not judge
good luck
2007-01-01 13:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what sweetheart , you need to just keep your cool because you are the one he is with . Just go forward not backwards and live for the future that you guys can have . Time is to short to worry about the past , think about the times ahead for you . Have fun and enjoy life .
2007-01-01 13:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by janice a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c he feels safe talking to someone about it and not u b/c he doesn't know how you'll react or respond to that. I've been there but its all good now. You aren't jealous your just upset and I would be too.
2007-01-01 13:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he really doesn't know what he wants or who he wants to tell things to. But it is okay to be jealous sometimes.
2007-01-01 13:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Parrish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are jealous. Try thinking about good things and think better of yourself that might help
2007-01-01 13:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are very strange beings. follow your instinct. try talking to him about this "Thing" if you are really offended tell him, but dont fight just communicate
2007-01-01 13:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear Laurie ... ur dating a wuss and a jerk ... however... u feel attraction for him... and that's why u are in love with him ...
my advice on this ...
KNOW THYSELF .... if u know what u really want no one will ever mess with ur feelings .
have a great life
2007-01-01 13:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by pc_utopia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋