{Your black and dominican}
So say your going out with this white guy... you love him, he loves you and everthing's going good. But your BF's dad says I like her and she can be your girlfriend but nothing more ( like no married).....even though your still in high school
2007-01-01 13:32:49 · 18 answers · asked by *♥*Lucky Charm*♥* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It not that he doesn't love me...he's just being pressured....his parents are divorced and both are remarried with different people....mom and step dad are okay with it...but dad and step mom aren't
2007-01-01 13:42:09 · update #1
If your boyfriend is willing to break up with you over something like this you need to be more concerned about him and less concerned about his parents.
2007-01-01 13:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first find out why this bothers your boyfriend. Is he upset with his dad, or upset his dad might be right. If he has any doubts, walk away. I know it would be hard, but you should be with someone that loves you, no matter who approves. Don't compromise your dignity and self respect because he's now unsure about how he feels. I would talk to him, and if what he says hurts you, or doesn't feel right, maybe you should be the one doing the breaking up. If it is meant to be, it might work out later. You are still young. Just keep your head up high, and don't lose your personality or what made him notice you in the first place.
2007-01-01 21:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same boat as you when i was in high school i had a black BF and i'm white my parents made me break up with him and i was so hurt he was my first love and also my FIRST, i still think about him and i'm 37 i'm not saying that we had some sort of future together or anything but love is love and it's also colour blind, if he loves you then he will follow his heart, there really isn't much u can say or do about it but hope that he will be able to take a stand with his father and tell him that he can not control who he see's or who he loves, good luck and don't worry if things don't work out your young and there will be alot more men in and out of your life just know that with every relationshop there is a lesson to be learnt.
good luck
2007-01-01 21:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I wouldn't worry about it too much.
The two most likely outcomes of this:
- you two end up breaking up anyways for some reason or another totally unrelated to this.
OR
- his parents get to know you and realize what an awesome, wonderful, sweet person you are and get over whatever sort of racial hesitations they may have. You live happily ever after, the end.
2007-01-01 21:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are not dating his parents, and you shouldn't care about what they think. But if your bf is going along with the idea and is willing to break up with you bcuz of his dad's decision for him, then maybe you shouldn't be with him in the first place. He is going to reject you bcuz of what his father thinks he wills always try to please his father and that can be a problem. You are still young, if your bf has made an independent decision to be with you he should make one to stay with you...
Good Luck.
2007-01-01 21:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just sad to say that even now race makes a difference. That much of a difference that it changes who you are to to other people. I have dated out of my race and a whole lot of the guys parents don't like it-sadly there's nothing you can do to change the 'rents opinion usually. It just comes down to do they care enough about you?
2007-01-01 21:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by C_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really love him stick with him. If he really loves you no one can choose who he marries or anything like it, stick to what you believe in. If his father is a racist then too bad because you love him and he loves you. If it still worries you talk to your boyfriend about it and see what he says. Remember the only thing that matters is that you love each other, true love goes a far, wait that sounds dumb, i mean the true love goes a far thing, anyway just do what you think is right!!!
2007-01-01 21:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Soph Loves Seb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be happy to be his girlfriend. Marriage is way down the road, so dont worry about it now. When the marriage question does come up, im sure his dad would know you more by then and change his mind.
2007-01-01 21:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by NOOOWAAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most said, it should ONLY matter what you and your boyfriend think. If he can't make a decision without approval from his parents, then he doesn't really care about you. I know my great-grandmother was a jew and my great-grandfather was not, which, in their day, was controversial but they fought against the odds and stayed together for 60 years.
2007-01-01 21:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by #2boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop taking things so seriously, all he's saying is he would like to have strong soveirgn family. it does not mean he does not like your race, he just wants respect for cultural boundaries.
and for his grandchildren to carry on cultural, not necessarilly racial, heritage. he wont dump you if you dont seem like you are really attached. just show him you are having fun, young love, whatever, and go from there. stop acting like you are trying to marry the guy, your only a freshman. just have fun.
2007-01-01 21:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by mr.m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋