My fiance is in the army and currently deployed and we are trying to work through this time apart. He wants to get married in a few months when he comes home for r & r but I'm hesitant because his parents are divorced and I really can't stand his step mom and step sister. They both made horrible first impressions when I met them. His step mother is very disrespectful towards him and also makes rude comments about his real mother, who is someone that I have become close to. And his step sister has done some things that I would have never been able to forgive her for if it was me. She tried to sell his son on ebay! I love him but I feel as if he lets people walk all over him and also is expecting more of me than I can give when it comes to those two. What should I do? Please help...
2007-01-01 13:25:30 · 4 answers · asked by Erebel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you met your fiance, did you already know how the step relatives were? If these people are disrespectful to him and you and don't like you, there is no reason to be around them. They are nasty people who don't know how to treat anyone with respect. They are going to be who they are. You can't change that. You need to remember that you will be marrying into his family....so that means that whenever there are holidays and they want to invite you to them, just remain calm and polite.
What your fiance needs to do when he gets back, he needs to talk to his father and let him know what has been happening. Hopefully his father will be a man and put a stop to his wife's behavior. If it continues, then you don't need to visit with them. You fiance just needs to call his dad over the phone and chat with him, rather than just visiting in person.
Don't give up on the person you love. I think he is lucky to have someone like you in his life for a change. Don't let these people ruin your relationship with your future husband. (smile)
2007-01-01 15:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married and my husband is an E-4 in the Army. We have some extended family members (step-parents and siblings). My advice to you is to follow the usual protocol when dealing with relatives from any side (step or biological). Be pleasant and invite everyone to attend whatever function and ignore ugly behavior. Let things go through one ear and out the other and keep a smile on your face. Because if they are rude to him then they will probably want some reaction from you or will be looking for things to NOT like about you. So don't give them any space and always be polite. Then if they act rudely, it makes them look foolish. You will learn once you are married to military that you will have to deal with people like that who are not related to you. For example other Army wives can be catty among each other. Let it be a good practice for improving your social graces.
2007-01-02 17:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would keep my mouth shut until he came home. When he came home, I would let him know exactly how I felt, and let him know that I would be pleasant to his relatives, but in no way let them disrespect him or me. If he expects you to take what they dish out, and not back you up when you don't, then you can decide then if you want to be apart of his family, and he yours. Just wait until he comes back so that you don't upset him while he's away. Carefully write your concerns down, and then a day or two after he's home, talk to him about it. If you are uncomfortable with his answers, then you can take some time, or even post pone the wedding until you are 100% sure. I would rather be sure, than spend years on Yahoo answers asking if I should get a divorce or just stay miserable. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 13:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all and multiple is bi-polar one way or yet another. all of us have mood swings. call it bi-polar in case you want yet I see it as yet another conspiracy from pharmaceutical organizations to make extra money by promoting extra drugs to depressed human beings. If someone shows to many mood swings or "replace in personalities" the perfect component is to stay away. they could be risky to themselves and others. Edit: playstation One human being behind many Avatars on Y/A might want to be an illustration of unstability besides. pay attention.
2016-12-01 10:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋