She told me that she loves me and she can't stand to be without me and that I'm her breathe of fresh air. But she dumped me once and she said she made a mistake and that she loves me but I don't want to re-date her because if she's gonna make this mistake she's bound to make more. How do I tell her that I don't want to date her?
2007-01-01 13:05:27 · 23 answers · asked by holybass09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say that because of the mistake she made you don't want to get back together because you're afraid that she'll make more and if she persists then just flat out say no unless you feel like giving her another chance.
2007-01-01 13:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Q&A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is always the best even though it is the hardest to say sometimes, however you need to start telling the truth in all areas of your life. When you use the truth as common practice you will see that it is much easier say than telling lies. You just simply explain to her that because she dumped you before you can not trust that she will not do it again. And also share with her that from this experience you have grown to now what you do and do not want in a relationship and you wish her luck finding the rite guy for her. The key to all of this is you finding comfort ,strength, and complete control of your life by always telling the truth. You will become a person who can stand with pride that you are truth not a liar. Good luck
2007-01-01 21:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by bronz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, im kinda in the same boat. Except its opposite. It has to deal with a friend who needs to let his crazy girlfriend go. But for some reason he just cannot muster it and instead lies about every little thing. For instance: last night he told her he was in jail so he wouldnt have to see her. This happens to be my ex boyfriend, who i honestly am well over, but i remember when we fell out of love and i remember its hard as hell to talk about it with them. U've gotten to know them so well and u just cant go through the fact that u are about to break their heart. But honestly, just get it done with. Think about the way ya'll talk to each other, dissect what u think she will say and be ready to have a justifiable answer that is also considerate. The whole time u need to be considerate of her feelings & just do it in the fashion of how u'd want to be told by the person you were madly in love with. And my best advice afterwards would be to ignore her phone calls(if shes the crazy ph call type) Sure, she's going to hate you for it. But its honestly the only way that someone can heal after a break up. My ex and i got bk together soO much and it just seemed like it was never going to stop btwn us. But he finally pulled some immature stunts that really made me loathe them. And its been almost 2 yrs since we dated and now we're close friends. I'm telling you, this cycle is a smart way to do it.
-Best of luck with the Breakin hearts
;o)
2007-01-01 21:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently tell her you need some space to rethink the the pros and cons of trying again. Remind her, again gently, that she did leave you once, and when that happened your feelings for her changed. Tell her you don't want to date her right now and you're not sure you will ever want to. Don't let tears and promises change your mind because it takes more than that for a relationship to work. Trust is essential and you don't have it now so you probably never will with this girl.
The most important thing, don't leave her hanging if you know for sure it's over. That's the worst thing to do, believe me.
2007-01-01 21:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a clean break. Tell her the truth...hey you've already put me through enough and I'm ready to move on.
Whatever you do, don't do the whole "but let's stay friends" thing...cuz you really don't want to be her friend, and that will just lead her on.
Yeah she'll get all emotional and worked up but she'll get over it. If you have a buddy of friend who was interested in her send him her way to take the heat off of you.
2007-01-01 21:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shugsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you gave her a chance and now that you two have parted you are over her and don't feel the same way about her as you once had before and that you don't see it working out on your part.
2007-01-01 21:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes, but if you think that you and her will be something, then go out with her.
But, if you don't feel the same way, then tell her.
Just tell her that you don't feel the same way;
don't make a big deal out of it.
Good Luck!
2007-01-01 21:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, then you should want to stay with her and give it a second change. If you don't love her, then you should tell her that you don't want to be with her. It is better for both not to drag the relationship along. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
2007-01-01 21:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by skiheart12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and to the point. That is always the best way. Make a clean break so she is not lead on in any way.
2007-01-01 21:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by wingedgelfling27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you dont fill the same way about her you think it be best that you took a break for a while and thin try agine later
2007-01-01 21:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by gay boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋