How can I get my parents to stop caring about what I do as mucH?

Question

My parent's care way to much about me. I want my parents to stop asking have you finished your work? Or if I haven't finished an asignment they both keep telling me "Start working on _______, or you'll ______" I really dislike them and I want them yo stay out of my life. My mom keeps bugging me to call my friends back if they call, or to call my friend about something and I HATE IT. They just don't understand I don't want to talk to them! I hate calling people. But baiscly, my parents care to much about me and I want them to stop caring.

My parents don't ask me to do work in a "nice" way. My dad yells, and he doesn't listen to what I have to say about it! I don't want to talk to my "friends" who call because they aren't really my friends, they don't even talk to me at school, I'm unpopular and they act like they don't know me at all! And I do just fine in school, so I don't need my parents to start bugging me. Sometimes I just don't want ot get out of bed or come home because of them. So yea call mee a spoiled little brat all you want, I'VE BEEN CALLED WORSE. So it doesn't really matter if you call me one or not.

And another thing... I don't really consider some of your answers to be the best.

Answer 1

Well, I've been through that dear.. I know what you mean.. I used to get really mad at my parents too.
But later, you realise that their love and affection is worth it.. Look at the number of orphans, who dont have parents to love them like ours do.

Take it in your stride and be proud that you have loving parents.. When you see it in a positive way, everyone else will too.. And for sure, it'll make your parents a lot happier.

In case it is way too much, just sit down and talk to them.. When your mom asks you to call someone up, just tell her that you dont want to because of ______. I'm sure she'll understand..

Answer 2

Your parents could never care to much for you! Be thankful they do. If they totally didn't give a toot, then think where you would be. Craving their attention in some way. Just think of the negative things that kids to to get their parents to start caring and give them some attention. It does sound like they are a bit over bearing, all parents can be at times (guilty) I have a 17 yr.old at home. I know how bugging your child to much can turn them off, especially a teenager (guilty) I hope you are able to talk to them. Just say, Mom/Dad, can we talk. This may come as a big surprise for them & maybe you too. But if you just try to talk to them (just a little) and with respect to them being your parents and you having respect for their feelings, as they should have for yours, maybe you can let them know you appreciate their care, but it is a little more than you can handle. Also, let them know how you feel and try to come to a happy medium. Oh-I'm not a phone person either & I only tell my kids once who called, then it's up to them to call or not. Hope this helps. +Smile+

Answer 3

You know? You're lucky to have parents. I just have a dad, because my mom was killed in a car accident when I was a baby. And I would give anything to have her in my life now. Even if she was on my tail asking about homework. You happen to be a very spoiled jerk. I'm sorry if this is rude. It's the truth. It's not like your parents are abusing you and throwing you down the stairs. They are asking simple questions. "Have you finished your assignment?" They are trying to make you succeed in school. Oh what horrible parents! Blah blah blah. You need to start respecting your parents. It's disgusting how so many kids are like YOU nowadays. It's absolutely ridiculous.
Parents worry. It's part of being a parent. I am twenty years old, and I still have to call my dad every now and then so he can make sure I'm fine. It doesn't bother me one bit.

Answer 4

i'm curious to know how old you are. when a person becomes a parent they take on the responsibility of nurturing, protecting and educating the child. there are many aspects to this responsibility. your parents sound like they are doing their job. i'm sorry if that annoys you, but perhaps you should talk to a child your own age who's parents DON'T care. i think you'll find that kid envies you. and as long as you live in your parents home and are under 18 years of age, the law requires your parents do what they are doing. as an alternative, you might try talking reasonably about more privledges and less supervision providing you follow your parents rules. then again, you could move out and support yourself.

Answer 5

One way is to consistently get your work done and start or finish your assignments before they ask.

You are extremely lucky to have parents that give 2 sh*ts about your a**. Don't worry...you will be out of the house when you go off to college (unless you don't). Then all you have to do is call them when you need money or visit them when you need your laundry done. I bet you don't even praise your parents for the things that you take for granted--like food, clothing, and any form of entertainment.

Answer 6

Then it sounds as though you need to move out and start supporting yourself.
You can't have it both ways.. take their money and have them support you but not care about you.

As long as you live under their roof then they have a say in what you do.

Someday you will hate yourself for ever feeling this way and for saying these things about your parents. They are the ONLY people who will love you unconditionally no matter what you do.

Answer 7

They sound like very protective parents to me. Obviously, they care a lot about you. Your well-being, your relationship with your friends. I think you should put it easy on them, after all they love you.

I recommend you to persuade them to change their minds. The best way to persuade them is to act and talk. By act, I mean by showing them that you are a responsible person now. You can do that by doing your regular chores, acting like a grown-up around them, and basically show them that you are ready to do somethings by yourself. After sometime, you can sit and talk to them about your current situation. After all of your previous actions, I'm sure that they will understand and allow you have more freedom.

Note: Do not ever yell or scream at them once you find that they are annoying you. It will only make the situation worse, after all, you don't always see a grown-up complaining like a kid.

Answer 8

Be glad that they care at all. You know that you know someone, or several someones whose parents don't give a flying fig if they live, die, eat sleep or come home.

If you don't want to return calls, tell your "friends" not to call you.

We all go through the phase where we hate our folks, but think seriously about how you would feel if they weren't there to drive you crazy.

Remember there a hundreds of people who would trade places with you for your angst.

Answer 9

You won't actually understand it till you have your own kids, but what they are doing, by keeping on you about these things, is developing good habits and manners so that when you get older and on your own, you'll be a responsible adult who doesn't have to keep coming back to them for help. I would try to always conduct myself in a mature, responsible manner. Ask kids who have done that all their life....usually their parents will let them do just about anything because they no they have nothing to worry about. Good luck.

Answer 10

It's called parental love and responsibility. Kids have felt the same about their parents for 1000 years. When you get to college and beyond on your own you will realize why they did what they did and when you have kids of your own you will do the same thing, even though you say NO WAY now.