okay there is this guy asu and i really like him! i know he likes me, cause he said some stuff i ain't sayin on here! but ya! i want him to tell me how he feels first before i make a fool out of myself! what do ya think i should do?
2007-01-01 12:46:29 · 36 answers · asked by lilmama_horses_lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't mean have it wit him!
2007-01-01 12:51:56 · update #1
okay, this guy is 13 2, and the things he said aren't bad, i just don't feel like writing all of that down!
2007-01-01 12:57:09 · update #2
i mean 13 also not a 132, noway!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-01 13:01:47 · update #3
Yes i think its wrong to have a boyfriend so young! Enjoy your childhood have fun play with your friends and wait till you grow up!
2007-01-01 12:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think 13 is not too young to have a friend who is a boy. Then you can enjoy having the company, opinions, and fun of getting to know someone by having decent experiences in common. Enjoy seeing the other persons perspective would make a very positive world. Knowing what they make of something you both experienced, and/or have interest in, which for boys and girls will ETERNALLY BE DIFFERENT is good stuff for maturing. It is also good for you to even like this person. Lets you know you are growing up (not grown!)
What is NOT MEANT TO BE is having an adult experience with boys at 13, neither physical or emotional. That is where the problem with having a friend who is a boy begins to take place. BOYFRIEND means responsibilities many ADULT males and females aren't ready to assume.
Even adults forget that just because we have certain feelings and parts and they are all operational, it doesn't mean we necessarily have to operate them. Then again, knowing just when we should, and who is deserving of that level of trust is also often too difficult for adults, let alone 13 years olds. 13 is too young to find that out when you are just beginning to even be aware of significant differences between yourself and the opposite sex on so many different levels.
I hope you'll stick to just having a friend who is a boy and realize that it is perfectly natural to find him attractive. Whatever you decide, know that one adult who responded tried to tell you like it is without putting your notion down.
Happy New Year.
2007-01-01 13:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know some people on here are going to say that you are immature and all that and you may not like to hear that. True or not the simple fact is that having a boyfriend can be fun but if things move too fast it is not a good thing. School is what you need to be focused on. I know. I know. That is what everyone is saying but you know what? It is true. There is not a person that I know that has had sex before marriage or adulthood that does not wish they did things a little differently and as for those of us who have had children in high school and the beginning of college let me tell you it is not an easy job. We may love them but we know that if we would have focused on our education we would be much better able to support our children and provide them with the things that they need and want if we would have just waited a little while longer and gotten through with school.
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Boyfriends are fun. Dates are fine if there is someone to supervise. It is not wrong to have a boyfriend just one your age or close to it. You might have butterflies and all but most likely it is not "meant to be". Don't feel bad though. You will meet all kinds of interesting new people through out your life and someday you will meet the one who you are supposed to be with.
2007-01-01 12:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Laura L. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a time in yours and his life that hormones are way up there (look up). If he told you things that you can't write on here than NOOOO... it's not meant to be. He just wants to get some... I think you know waht I mean. When I was 13 and I'm about to be 17, guys told me some freaky stuff, I mean they still do now... but at that age you really gotta be careful. I'm being totally honest with you here gurl... he doesn't care... he just sees a girl that he can possibly lose his innocence with. Don't do it. If you've waited to ask others your obviously a smart girl and know that you are worth way more than that. Just chill and get to know this dude a bit better ok?? Be smart!!
2007-01-01 12:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may not be "wrong" to have a bf at 13, but it is kinda pointless. BF and GF are really potentially to find what you like in a life partner. At 13, it would be great to just have friends and be a kid, as you are---until you do HAVE to take on adult responsiblities. I can tell you at an adult age, that I wish I didn't have to be an adult sometimes. Why be an adult before the time?
2007-01-01 12:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen is TOO YOUNG to have a "boyfriend".
You can have friends that are boys, but no boyfriend-girlfriend relationships until you're in high school.
There is a distrubing trend in our society that seems to be pushing younger and younger kids into relationships that are really only appropriate for kids sixteen and over.
Slow down. You have lots of growing up to do before you get a boyfriend. You need to concentrate on doing well in school, not your social life.
2007-01-01 12:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is your age and you want him to tell you how he really feels, you might be waiting a very long time. Feelings like this are not what boys your age feel comfortable talking about. Stop waiting for him to bare his soul and just hang out with him and have fun. How he feels about you will become obvious, believe me.
2007-01-01 12:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to have a boyfriend at 13. True it will be a different relationship than a college girl and her boyfriend but that dosnt mean you cant have one. If you like the guy then go for him usually guys like a girl to make the first move and if he is shy then you really should go for him.
2007-01-01 12:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes its wrong to have a bf at 13 because ur too young in order to have someone and plus u can only be bf and gf when ur 16 because how r u going to get to places unless ur parents say it's ok so just be free before u get involved with boys now and u got 3 years so just have FUN with it and not by DRINKING i mean with ur friends and go to the movies and have ur free time now before u have to be in "jail" if u know what i mean it means that when ur with a bf ur kinda tied to him but its not like im saying u shouldnt have 1 i mean that enjoy ur time know
2007-01-01 12:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sara R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the question is: how old is this guy? i wouldn't let my daughter have a bf @ 13 and certainly not date unless it was chaperoned by people i trust. in my opinion, its way too young to get serious.
my suggestion to you would be to hang out with a group of young people ( this guy included, of course) that way you get to know the guy without being pressured too soon for things you might not be ready for. good luck.
2007-01-01 12:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by angel1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋