I've been datin gmy boyfriend for a little over 3 years. I love him more than anything and I know he feels the same. I'm just about to graduate college, as is he. We are only 21. I'm attending law school in the fall and he has a job offer in another city. I feel like if we are apart for 3 years while I'm still in school we'll both be absolutely miserable. But I don't want to be married until after law school because I want to do things in a manner that will be best for both of us and our relationship. What do most people do in this situation? Do they wait? Marry young? I know this seems a rather strange question, but I've never known anyone in a similar situaiton and just want some input. Thank you.
2007-01-01 12:46:09 · 7 answers · asked by fees4sale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to make a decision for you, since I can not judge you... for I don't know the whole situation.
But from experience (not my own, but from viewing others) I am against marrying young in fear of hurting the relationship.
You said yourself that you wanted to wait until after law school because you wanted to do things in a manner that will be best for the both of you.... you're on the right track.
Obviously you are an intelligent person, and you have a strong relationship if you've been dating for 3+ years... wait it out. Most people would probably marry young... but it only puts more stress on the relationship and the wedding planning may even cause distraction at a time where you need to be focused on your future in your career.
Good Luck!
2007-01-01 12:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Meghan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your bf need to decide. Some couples have very long engagements for reasons like yours - one wants to finish school and begin a career. Others marry before they finish school and take turns supporting each other while they're in graduate school. You both need to talk and decide which is best for you. There's no right or wrong answer, except what makes both of you happy.
2007-01-01 20:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a legal standpoint, don't get engaged on a holiday. Since the ring is in anticipation of marriage, it is your to keep even if you don't get married. If you get engaged on a holiday like Xmas, he can always say it was a holiday gift and may be entitled to getting it back.
I know it is not the best way to start a relationship, but so many end abruptly. Don't forget a prenup, too.
2007-01-01 20:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately wait. If it is meant to be you will end up together when the time is right. There are so many years to be tied-down and married, enjoy your youth now, you'll never get those years back again. I'm 39 and if I had to do it over again I wouldn't have married and had kids until I was in my 30's.
2007-01-01 20:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married just to keep him around. If you are unsure, then you should take this time to figure it out. If you guys really love each other, then you should try it out. See each other often and keep up your communication. If you get married and things do not work out since you will be apart, then it will be hard. At least if you try and even if you guys do separate, you still can get back together afterward. (Even though you do get back together after you guys divorce - if you do worse case scenrio.)
Talk to him and you can figure it out. Sometimes you have to let go of the one's that you love the most.
2007-01-01 20:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
August is a good time to be engaged and the baby will be due around spring time.
2007-01-01 20:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know the answer to that
2007-01-01 20:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋