This person has begged me to go out for about three weeks. And I told him I thought he was too young for me. So, I went against my better judgement and we made plans to meet for dinner. Three hours before we were going to meet at the restaurant, he emails me. Saying, he had a headache and couldn't make it.
Now, this sounds like a no brainer, right? And quite frankly, I was relieved. Because even though he was only seven years younger than myself, he sounded a little immature.
My question is...... Did he just have a change of heart? Or was he just too immature? Or do you think he was afraid of me? Or is he a nut case? Or just simply didn't want to go out with me? Or maybe the restaurant I picked was too expensive. The man implied he had money, as do I. So, what do you think? Tell me true?
And do I really care, not really. But I would be interested in some feedback.
2007-01-01 12:32:08 · 17 answers · asked by classy lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like you're dealing with exactly what he's dealing with. As someone said, he maybe wasn't that interested to begin with except in the fact that you were rejecting him. He wanted not to be rejected, so you became more and more appealing. Then, you accept, and he's no longer interested, because he wasn't that psyched about you to begin with. He was excited about whatever you meant to his ego. Now you're doing the same thing. You weren't interested, but now that he's rejected you, he's interesting to you because your ego is hurt. It's a silly trap. Who cares why he canceled? You WEREN"T interested in him, remember? Let it go. He does sound pretty young.
2007-01-01 12:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a no brainer? Yep, he had no brain!
Seriously though lots of possible options, most of which you have listed.
1. He's immature. I'd need to know how old you and he are but imature can occur at ANY age.
2. He had a change of heart. He's a little dweeb and not worthy of any woman anyway.
3. Afraid of you? If he's afraid of you then he's not man enough for you either. Yes men can be afraid of women and there's nothing wrong with that (especially if they're holding a large gun or your heart in their hands.)
4.Nut case? most likely! the world is full of them.
5.If he didn't want to go out with you then why'd he ask you out? Just to play games? If so String him up by the balls and pull out a couple of his toenails. (Sorry about the crassness but playing games with people's hearts is a bad thing!)
6. If the restaurant was too expensve then he lied to you about his money and that sort of sleeze deserves all he gets. (In this case he doesn't get you because he doesn't deserve you.)
7. he's married and suddenly got a conscience. In this case, if it's an isolated incident and he doesn't make it a habit, be flatterred at the compliment to your beauty, thankful that you did not get involved with him, and thankful that he has chosen the right path.i.e. to be faithful.
[I assume he did not suddenly find out that you are married!]
I have a 24 hr rule.
If a prospective date cancels less than 24 hrs before the date, without a valid excuse, then I never talk to them again. ( I class a valid excuse as hospitalisation, death in the family etc. 2 weeks ago I had food poisoning. I still went out to to meet her but then advised her that I was really ill and asked if she could put up with me for this date. She did! and She was able to see that I was really sick.)
More than 24 hrs notice and I give them the benefit of the doubt.
3 hrs and 'sorry I've got a headache?' would get an 'oh well I hope you get better.' and me deleting their phone numbers really quickly.
2007-01-01 20:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already covered all the possibilities. Plus, a person seven years younger has nothing in common with you. It's healthy that you don't care. Remind yourself that you don't care. Forget the whole thing.
2007-01-01 20:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he either had a girlfriend and decided at the last minute he couldn't go through with your date or he had made other plans at the last minute. That's just my guess.
2007-01-01 20:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading the way you worded this question, I would say that he just decided that you're a pain in the YKW...and not worth the effort. Just my guess. I could be wrong, but I doubt it.
2007-01-01 20:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he chickened out at the last minute. Wait and see what happens but proceed with caution. Hope for the best, but don't expect much. Sorry this happened to you.
2007-01-01 20:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by StephanieM. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like when push came to shove he chickened out. The challenge was what kept him interested !
2007-01-01 20:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO maybe he was begging several women at teh same time, playing the numbers, he just got one to say yes who was higher up on his list...
2007-01-01 20:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing him, nobody here can say...your guess is better than ours, because you at least did communicate with him...
Sorry it happened...people who pull stunts like that are very unkewl at the least...
2007-01-01 20:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was all of the above. Why would he cancel by e-mail instead of by phone? What a dork. Well, he lost out on a nice time.
2007-01-01 20:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋