my question is when there is a girl that spents the night that is more one girls friend then the other, should we have both of the girls play with them or just the girl that is more her friend, they are both in 3rd grade and they share a room.
2007-01-01 12:18:30 · 17 answers · asked by lee b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
they go to a small school
2007-01-01 12:19:41 · update #1
it is that the girl that dosen't have a friend wants to play and the other sister dosen't want her to
2007-01-01 12:31:41 · update #2
I have this problem with my girls, they are 12, 11, and 7. My solution is that at my house everyone has to hang out together. If a kid wants alone time with a friend, they can go to the friend's house. Some of their friends get upset about this, but most accept it and they all end up becoming closer.
2007-01-01 12:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by erica_m16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not do what my mom always did? When one girl had a friend over, the other one was allowed to invite someone over or go out with a friend. That way, everyone was able to be included in play. We would often all end up together by the end of playdates!!
Or, since each was a from a previous marriage, there must be another mom and another dad somewhere in the picture. Why not give the girl not having a playdate the chance to see her other parent? I've heard of families in your situation who've had spilt custody take one child per week and that way the kids wouldn't have to interact too much. This is often hard socially, however, so you may just want to maybe allow the un-involved girl a chance to spend the evening with her other parent.
You don't necessarily have to make the girls all play together, because it's hard with three. Again, try and arrange it so each girl has a friend come over simultaneously, so nobody's left out.
Good luck!
2007-01-01 20:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been the friend of sisters I would recomend letting them be alone. It isn't fair to the two that are friends to have to involve the other sister. It might make it easier if both girls have a friend spend the night at the same time, let the other one stay at a friends, or make special plans with the other one. Have a mom daughter night or something like that. Don't force them to all play together. The friend might stop coming over if she thinks she has to play with the other sister.
2007-01-03 00:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by kerijeanbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to both girls and encourage them to be able to both play together and separately as they want ... since it's always tough to have siblings who are close in age and can share common friends it will be a life long issue. I had a girl friend and a guy friend from the same family and on occassion it would seem to be hard to say I'm hanging with one or the other, but sometimes it happened and sometimes we were all part of a group ... so they need to know that there can be independence as well as common ground. good luck
2007-01-01 20:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let the kids decide.
It would really suck to have a sisters friend over who I didn't want to play with and HAVE to play with her.
On the other hand, if I really wanted to play and they didn't want me to...that would suck too.
This is harder than I thought!
As the auntie, if they were all at my house it would not be an issue because I have so many fun creative things to do that they would all be totally engaged in activities and who was playing with who would be a moot point. Maybe that's a good alternative?!? Try getting them all some Sculpey and watch the creative circus begin!
2007-01-01 20:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent but I think maybe you should let your daughter have friend spend the night when your other daughter has a friend over for the night. This is fair for both of the girls.
2007-01-01 20:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by dorkof92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have both girls invite a friend over at some time? Or you or the husband can take the one without the sleepover out for a nice "date"
2007-01-01 22:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by gauchogirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better to talk with each of the girls, and then have them try to get along. If they're all in the same house, the "odd girl out" will have her feelings hurt. It can be tough, but the next time this happens it should work out more smoothly.
2007-01-01 20:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls will be girls. Maybe you should try having both of them pick a friend to spend the night.
2007-01-01 21:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by dmh2105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to let them switch up one nite one gets a friend the next nite the other or both get differents friends at the same time can have a pow wow and 2 sleep in living room other in the bedroom
2007-01-02 17:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋