Is it true that Muslims are not allowed to show any emotion after a family member has died ?

Question

I was told that they must show no emotion for 40 days?

Answer 1

Let mme explain from beginning. We have 3 days to mourn for the member who has died. after 3 days we must TRY to continue to lives lives as normal. We are not allowed to wail and cry and moan about the dead after 3 days as it gives the deseased member's soul pain.
after 3 days we have to continue and move on, just ike anyone else. all we can do is remember the person in prayers and make prayers for him/her.
If we carry on crying over the dead, it only makes you more ill. when you are ordered to move on you become stronger and not forget the life you have and the duties of respecting allah and others around you.(muslim & non-muslim).
It has to be done. There is nothing wrong in remembering the dead and it has been asked, that we should remember the dead. but there happens to be a story about a women who lost a member and cried for that member all the time. she made herself ill, and her other children and family members as they were always weeping and mourning even after so many years had passsed. as she forgot her duty as mother/daughter and so on her whole family suffered and this is not good for health for all. she was wrong in this way.
so yeah we are not allowed to mourn after 3 days, but just pray and remeber them. carry on and become strong for your slf and the rst of the family and carry on being the member that dutifies upon you.
after 40 days no one is to cry at all and only remeber and pray or visit the grave etc. i think its normal just like anyone else and it helps. just imagine if we mourned for years? my grandmother never converted to Islam and is still in no pressure, we still keep in contact with her as Islam orders s to and she is my grandmother, no matter what religion. when her son, who was also christian died, she mouren for years. she could not let go. in the end her marriage broke down and she had depression for years. she is better now with family support, but this is what Islam doesn't want, breakdowns and suffering etc.
we cant cry, but we can talk about it. talking helps alot. theres nothing wrong with talking about the desease. (as long as its good stuff!)
hope this helps

Answer 2

no, expression of grief is encouraged.

Traditions differ in every country and the Turkish interpretation of Islam is in some ways different than those in other Arabic countries. These comments are basically relevant for Turkish culture:

Death is considered an act of God is not questioned. Faithful followers believe that all the events in the life-course of an individual, including the time and type of death, are pre-written by God.
People in grief are encouraged to show their feelings openly. They are encouraged to cry loudly as it is believed that crying cleans the soul. Any expression of rebellion against God's decision to take a person away from her/his dear ones is considered a sin.
Friends visit the house of the deceased and talk with the family members, encouraging them to describe how the death occurred, what they were doing at the time of death, etc.
For seven days, the family members are never left alone. Friends and neighbors bring food, as no cooking is supposed to be done in a funeral home during those seven days.
Traditionally, no television, radio or any musical devices would be allowed for 40 days but this practice has waned in recent years.
There is a religious prayer at the 40th and another at the 52nd day after the death.
Muslims are very sensitive to where their beloved ones are buried. They definitely want them buried in a cemetery for Muslims. They also want the funeral prayers to be led by a Muslim, not by a rabbi or a Christian priest.
A special ceremony and prayers accompany the funeral. The body is buried without the coffin and wrapped in white clothes, as it is believed that the body should touch the earth.
The body must be washed/bathed with certain rituals before the funeral ceremony begins. This usually takes place at either a special section of the mosque or in the morgue of the hospital. It is very upsetting when a body is buried without being washed.
When meeting with someone who has lost a relative, conversations start by saying: "May you be alive and May God's blessings be on him/her - the deceased."

Answer 3

The answers above are sufficient and your question was totally in reverse. Yes the mourning period is 3 days for most people and 40 days for closer relatives e.g. spouses.

For whatever reason your question was intended!!!

Answer 4

It would be hard for anyone not to show emotion after someone has died, doesn't sound right

Answer 5

No, not true.
The mourning period is three days.

But if a husband dies, the wife has to mourn for 40 days, not "show no emotion". During this period she shouldn't show herself to any non-Mahrams (males who are not close relatives)

Answer 6

That is rubbish. Muslims are allowed to show emotion, but they are not allowed to lament excessively over it.

Answer 7

they mourn for 40 days for the member who passed away we have a first day after the death we pray for them and give a dinner same for the tenth day then 40th day ending the mourning

Answer 8

No, just watch some of the TV news programmes on Iraq.

Answer 9

And worship Allah and associate naught with Him, and show kindness to parents, and to kindred, and orphans, and the needy, and to the neighbour who is a kinsman, and the neighbour who is a stranger, and the companion by your side, and the wayfarer, and those whom your right hands possess. Surely, Allah loves not the arrogant and the boastful;

Answer 10

No that is not true. When the prophet's son died he cried. We are not allowed to wail over the dead as in screaming and hitting ourselves.