ok I dated this guy very briefly because he lives 14 hours away and he came to visit family wher i live for christmas, he came and saw me and told me if work wasnt slow and rent wasnt $1400 a month he would have me moved down there already, but a girl I know where i live said he was saying bad things about me and that she got the vibe he had no intention of persuing anything with me who do I believe and what do I do???
2007-01-01 11:54:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only person who knows what he is thinking and what is in his heart is him. People say mean hurtful things about others all the time. This other girl might be jealous and want you out of the picture so she will tell anything to get you to dump him. (That's what that commandment about "bearing false witness" means.) I suggest you talk to HIM if you want to know the truth and don't listen to people who SAY they know him or that they know someone who knows someone who knows...
2007-01-01 12:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps in touch on a regular basis, I would think he has some interest in me. If he doesn't, I would not think about him too much. Sounds like he just stopped to visit you as a friend. If he wanted to persue a relationship with you he might try to talk you into moving closer to him or he could split the difference. I can see his point about paying big bucks for rent and the job market in your area. If it is love, love will find a way. Doesn't sound to me like it is. As far as the gossip. Don't hold too much in that either. As stated before, if he wanted a relationship, it would have been there all along.
2007-01-01 20:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned you dated the guy only very briefly, how well do you know him, could you trust him? Could the girl have other motives? If he was saying bad things about you he isn't worth your attentions. How where things left with him? Did he say he would call or has he arranged another date to meet up? If not then I think you have your answer... Sorry to be harsh but if a guy is interested he'll let you know.
2007-01-01 20:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how things play out. Neither seems too trustworthy now... this girl might like stirring up trouble or she may like him, your guy may or may not have said things about you. Nevertheless, he lives 14 hrs away so I'd just find a guy nearer and not worry about what this guy or the girl says, it doesn't really matter, right?
2007-01-01 19:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you take everything into consideration. what do you feel about him? you'd better to be sure you want to move down there with him and that your feelings for him are strong enough. it could be a mistake, and it's never wise to move far away from your family or friends. is this friend of yours that told you these things the type to instigate stuff? if she is not, then you could consider what she said and be careful what you do.
2007-01-01 19:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should check out his excuses for yourself. Find out how much rent is there and the jobs, then I think you will know who to believe.
2007-01-01 19:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of them. Ignore this girls gossip - most likely she is jealous, and wait and see what he does. If he really wants to be with you he will be, but don't rush in and get too attached.
2007-01-01 20:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cared about you, then he would have found a way to have you with him. Move on, he's not to be trusted!
2007-01-01 19:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to start taking notes and seeing who the liar is! oh and what are the signs that will help me alot! email me direct.
2007-01-01 19:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by sexy c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him an ultamatum (sp?) ...if he makes excuses...drop him. That's what I did and never looked back!
2007-01-01 20:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by y2jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋