We broke up because a lot came between us, and he said it kinda got annoying when I called him 24/7. He was my 1st bf, so I didnt really know how to act or whatever. So, anyways, we didnt talk for a few weeks after we broke up, but now we're talking, and getting along. He told my friend to tell me he doesnt hate me, and he needs his space, and ever since I've been giving him his space, we're getting along and flirting again. But I don't know what to say if he asks me out again, because he yelled at me A LOT for calling him and annoying him (by calling him) but now, he knows I didnt know how to act around my 1st bf. And I was his 1st gf too. So, now that we're flirting a lot and getting along better, what does it mean?
2007-01-01 11:52:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, you should get back to him, but so that he knows, tell him that you are sorry for your behavior. Tell him that you are only human, and that means that you're not perfect. And nobody is born with the experience, it is something you collect through life.
Follow my advice : let him know when he does something you don't approve or like, so that he can learn not to do that. But also let him know that he does the same thing with you , so you can learn what to do and what not to do, too.
You both must learn that there's no use holding things to yourself in an honest relationship...
Good luck!
And ofcourse, happy new year!
2007-01-01 12:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Looda_Plavusha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you both still have alot of strong feelings towards eachother. The best things to do is to just keep and open conversation going between the two of you and things should be fine. I didn't really know how to act around my first boyfriend either so pretty much the same things happened between us because I was a bit to clingy and didn't know what to do. We have broken up a couple times since we got together but that was 7 years ago, we are still together to this day and I love him so much! Hope things work out for the best between the two of you, and you find lots of happiness in the future!!
2007-01-01 19:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he cares. But the question is does he still want a relationship? Flirting is just flirting. Have you both discussed the calling issue. Personally I hate when a guy calls me every single day (I do have a life). Hopefully his yelling will cease. Because yelling is not the answer to a healthy relationship. You are a person not a dog.
2007-01-01 20:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by narcisscus24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it some time. Even if he was your first boyfriend, isn't it common sense not to call someone so often that it gets annoying? I think you should act mysterious... like don't call him often, be busy with you own life, let him come to you. In the future no more than one call a day and sometimes that's too much. I mean one call like if you're not with him, obviously if you're like shopping together and separate or you need to call him for something important then it's ok to call more than once but realistically people need space in relationships or it gets too crowded.
2007-01-01 19:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means this time the relationship may work. You were both new to the dating scene and after you are more comfortable around eachother you should be able to talk about it together. Don't call too much. Everyone needs a little space to breathe.
2007-01-01 19:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Taylor Wayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes two people might be right for each other but met at the wrong time. I wish I met my ex when we were older, I really believe if we were more mature we wud have spent our lives together. You are obviously still young, sometimes gettin back together will keep you from gaining experience for the future. It might seem like a good idea at the time but sometimes doing so you might miss the experience n make a mistake later on to lose somesome else.
2007-01-01 20:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, baby girl, I am talking to you from personal experience, ok? The right guy is going not going to yell at you for being you. There are no rules for 1st,2nd,3rd,...relationships, but there are rules for your dignity and respect. If you chose to tangle up with this rude, disrespectful, mentally unstable and probably future CONTROL FREAK (get used to never being good enough) at least raise your standards bar NOW.
Rule #1: He doesn't get to hurt your feelings because "you annoyed him" - What a JERK for even trying to blame you for his incapability of treating women with respect. What about when you become sick, pregnant, somebody dies and you really become needy??? Will he get to treat you like **** because he is annoyed?
Rule #2: You don't get to allow someone to treat you like **** when they want to and take you out and play with you after they've realized they've hurt your feelings.
Please, look into signs of abusive relationships/men/control freaks/jealousy. Sweetie, I am speaking from experience, he reeks of "He's not the one for you".
BE SAFE.
2007-01-01 20:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by peacegypsy@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind me of my first relationship but we never got together anymore since we've both moved on.
Anways back to your story. My advice is to go on one or two dates with him but don't accept him as your boyfriend yet. Just wait and maybe during the date, you'll both know if you guys are ready to be together again.
2007-01-01 20:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by meOW! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way the two of you can get along is when you're doing that "bf thang"! Don't try to make anything of it just enjoy what you two do best!
2007-01-01 19:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Want2know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does .. but I think he is just scared and you being his first girlfriend and all he proably feels smotherd because he is not used to it .. It happend to me too and I am married to my 1st boyfriend just need space dont be around him all the time and dont call him all the time and it will be good.
2007-01-01 19:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by wildchick_glenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋