I have heard some about courtship as a Christian alternative to modern dating. In this courtship process, there is no physical affection shown until marriage. Both the young man and young woman pray intensely about the relationship before allowing themselves to fall in love. Parents of both partners are highly involved in the relationship, giving advice and sometimes forbidding their children to go on "dates" by themselves. (You can get a better explanation on http://polynate.net/books/courtship/). In some ways, it seems like a better way to choose a partner, but in others, it seems incredibly strange and even scary to me because it is so different. I am not sure what to think about it and was hoping to get some other opinions.
2007-01-01 11:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i like that noone gets physically involved till marriage but ur right it seems kind of old in light of today's world and the way we do things. but i dont like how parents are very very involved...that sounds suffocating...
2007-01-01 11:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by flatteredwu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courtship gives a couple the opportunity to make an examination or investigation of themselves. When utilized properly, courtship not only can help a couple determine whether they are really suited for each other but can also prime them for the challenges of married life. In other words courtship is stepping stone to marriage and not casual dating.
If you want to go on a date go in groups see how the other person react outside of their realm. Or take a chaperone who will respectively stay at a distance.
Having decided that someone might be a suitable marriage mate for you, you could approach the person and express a desire to get to know that one better. Assuming there is a positive response, your first date need not be some elaborate affair. Perhaps a lunch date or even being part of a group date will enable you to become better acquainted so as to decide whether you want to take the relationship any further. Keeping things somewhat informal helps ease some of the nervousness both might feel initially. And by avoiding premature expressions of commitment, you can minimize feelings of rejection—or embarrassment—if one of you loses interest.
Regardless of the type of date planned, show up on time, neatly and appropriately dressed. Display the skills of a good conversationalist. Be an active listener. (James 1:19) Though there are no hard-and-fast rules in such matters, a young man will want to follow local rules of etiquette. These may include opening a door for the young lady or helping her into her seat. A young woman, while not expecting to be treated like a princess, should cooperate modestly with her date’s efforts. By treating each other with mutual respect, a couple can set a pattern for the future.
2007-01-01 12:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by loladrewblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the outcome of the modern-American form of dating, it sounds like a very valid option!
Too many couples have been led by their gonads, instead of their minds and hearts, into serious relationships they were not ready for or fully equipped to handle. Too many relationships have gone down the toilet because the bride and groom rushed into gratifying their physical wants, instead of getting to know one another first!
Something new is always a little scary at first, but consider the possibilities before writing off this form of courtship. What do you have to lose?
2007-01-01 11:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that courtships is the best and most Godly way to go. My church believes in courtships..im a fundamental Baptist. The people who have gone through courtships have the best marriages because if they could stand not being with each other which is hard, then they could make it through anything in their marriage.
by Gods grace,
kathy 1 cor. 13
2007-01-01 11:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by kathy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound rather conservative but the safe way to go. The part about prayer should be paramount in any Christian relationship. If you can find the right young man committed to the same principle then you are on the right track. God bless and keep on praying!!!
2007-01-01 11:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Devon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DREAM ON!
Sounds delightful!
I and most others live in the REAL WORLD though.
Nice to find a True Christian girl in a Church related area-- but even that is getting tough!
Pre nuptial JAZZ should be avoided --but we do live in this STINKIN real world!
2007-01-01 11:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds boring... id rather die alone than go through all that...
2007-01-01 11:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋