My son got in a fight at school. It's really unusuall for my son to do things like that. He is usually really sweet. Well now he has a broken nose! I want to make sure he dosn't get into another fight! I have tooken away his cell phone, laptop. Believe me, he uses his laptop and cell phone all the time! I'm sure he wont do it again. Do you think thats enough punishment? Well he has to go to work with me while hes home........yeah. he is going to be bored. Well i dont know if i am being to harsh on him.........
My sons never get in alot of trouble!
2007-01-01 11:38:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is good that he can stand up for himself.
2007-01-01 11:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Anne,
I don't think you're getting to the point of why your son had the fight and instead are focusing on how out of character it is. Truly it's not out of character as kids fight and as a parent you come to terms with that but that's ok as long as you handle the aftermath properly.
Talk to your son and ask him why he had the fight, what made him mad and then discuss with him ways in which he can vent his anger without using his fists. Instead of punishment, help him to understand why what he did was wrong and how to do better if he comes across that situation again.
I agree that the broken nose is punishment enough, if this was his firs fight he doesn't deserve all priveladges taken immediately warn him first and do as suggested but if he does do it again taking these things is completely justified.
Good luck!!
2007-01-01 11:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him? Did you ask him why he got into a fight? Children don't just do things for the hell of it and if he isn't a fighter as such I would be wondering what was going on in his life for him to act that way. If you feel you are being harsh bad luck. You have already told him what the consequences to his actions are and you can not go back and change your mind. Your son will lose respect for you.
My son was the same and I found out he was being bullied at school.
Good luck
2007-01-01 13:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what kind of fight he was in and why. If he almost never does this and he usually sweet, something or someone pushed him over the edge.
Despite what the PC crowd will tell you, there are times to fight.
If he got his nose broken, perhaps it's time for martial arts lessons so that he knows how to avoid a fight, but kick butt if he has to fight. Don't kill his aggression, help him to channel it. He will need it to suceed in this world.
You may want to acquaint him to "the Art of War."
2007-01-01 11:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your son. He doesn`t sound like the type of kid who would pick a fight, and it probablly wasn`t his fault. If you find out that he started it, then you are not being too harsh at all. Any good parent wants to make sure that their children don`t become violent when they`re angry or upset. But its not right for you to punish him if it was self defense. So, my answer is that until you talk to your son, I don`t know if you`re being too harsh.
2007-01-01 12:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think thats the right punishment then thats good. But what was the reason he got into a fight in the first place? Its important not to fight but its important to defend yourself for the right reasons. Sometimes kids should be rewarded for protecting themselves instead of punished
2007-01-01 11:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by W.E.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's unusual just talk to him about it.
And also--if its something that hasnt happened before, stop being so harsh on him. If his nose is broken, he probably didnt start the fight, and he knows not to get in another fight again.
2007-01-01 12:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find out if he threw the first punch or if he was just defending himself. Even if he didn't, was this is first fight and what provoked him? I think you're being way too harsh since you say he has not displayed this type of behavior before. If you see a pattern developing, then yes, take away all his "toys" and seek professional help.
2007-01-01 11:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by flipdout2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he really is gentle natured and doesn’t fight it must have been for a good reason. You should talk to him about it and see what he fought over and tell him that fighting is not the right path (even though he will role his eyes at you). If he will not tell you then you should talk to his principal and get the full story
2007-01-01 11:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,you are showing him that getting kicked out of school is no fun.i would return his things once back in school,with a word to the wise ,next time it could be worse.i hope something is being done w/the other student.breaking a nose is serious and dangerous.i hope what ever started the fight has been resolved.you sound like a good mom.
2007-01-01 11:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lay off! Kids get in fights all the time it's all a part of growing up.
2007-01-01 11:55:03 · answer #11 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋