Well my father is a drug addict he has been for as long as I can remember i have never known him any other way but my older brother has my brother and i are 11 years apart and i love him more than life itself my brother is my everything he's my world i'd give every pleasure of life up for him he recently got caught cheating on his wife and he says that i shouldnt worry about him but i cant stop today he came home and he was acting weird he didn't stay in the house more than 5 minutes i went outside and i found him in his car asleep i figured he was just tired because he works for the railroad but then i saw an open empty beer container in his car so i came inside and called my mom to inform her that i thought something was going on he lost his cell phone last night as so he says he hasnt been home since he left about 4 or 5 hours ago i love him and im scared that he's turning into my father only instead of drugs its alcohol how do i let go i spend every moment of my life worrying!!!
2007-01-01 11:38:04 · 9 answers · asked by PrInCeSs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this is not your problem but your brothers. he is going through a rough time - he got caught at something he doesn't know how to handle - and he is handling the situation the only way he knows how. it doesn't necessarily mean he is going to turn into your dad. he's just lost and looking for an outlet. it doesn't make it right - but he is hurting right now. i hope he can turn himself around, talk with his wife and settle the situation he got himself caught up into. you cannot worry for him. yes, he is your brother, but he is a man and it's up to him to come full circle and correct the mistake he has made with his wife. just be there for him with support and without making judgments.
2007-01-01 12:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal for you to worry about your brother, first i think you should ask him what is going on but not like that cause then he'll think your just trying to get in his business,and if he tells you you go from their. if your really worried about his drinking do something with him, just hang out see how he acts, chances are that hes a little depressed and he just needs an outlet to vent his frustration or even have a shoulder to cry on.
P.S. call his wife see if she knows where he is.
2007-01-01 11:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Katie Kiesel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I admire you for caring about him so much...but he is a grown man and he won't change until he is ready. It is natural to worry but not all of the time. Try and sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel.....Alcohol and drugs do really strange things to people and in return they do things to people they love but wouldn't do if they weren't on drugs or alcohol.....hope this helps...
2007-01-01 11:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by ariermagee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn!!!!!! I wish I could help you.
The only advice I can give you is find someone you can talk to. A school counselor, the leader of your church, an agency in your town that handles child abuse, even the police can send you in the correct direction.
Don't give up. Hang in there.
2007-01-01 12:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Bigdog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to have faith in him and the Lord. Have faith that he will do what is right. He just have to realize what he doing is wrong right now. Hopefully, he will overcome it. He is just drinking so that he will not spend his time worrying about his problems. Drinking isn't the right way though because those problems are still there afterwards- to be faced. He probably just needs time to deal with his problems.
2007-01-01 11:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
merely because you bypass to courtroom and also you're extra effective off financially doesnt recommend you adult men will be provided custody thats insane! initially shes the mummy and has been there for 2 years of the childs existence and this is the childs welfare that comes first. really they arent going to allow you to take complete custody with no very very strong reason yet they could provide acess and weekend visits. inspite of the indisputable fact that the actual incontrovertible truth that your husband is contained in the protection stress potential he might want to be away for longperiod of time dows it not - if the baby change into at your position complete time then the baby might want to be neither with its guardian considering he might want to be deployed - really an insane courtroom might want to conform to that! Its a foul challenge and shes for sure being completely out of order, your husband has a good to understand his daughter and he or she has a good to bond such as her father. i imagine that in case you cant get her to conform to a mediator then you truthfully can ought to visual demonstrate unit for get entry to and get a dna and get him on the beginning certificate.
2016-12-01 10:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by brenneman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him and let him know your concerns. He has alot of pain right now. He will have to work this out himself so just try not to worry so much. God Bless
2007-01-01 12:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u can talk to a counseler. & its tough with lots of problems in life. tell him that drinking wont make him any better. mean while, try to make everything as easy as possible for him.
2007-01-01 11:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him it just may be a temp thing and he needs to know how you feel
2007-01-01 11:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by pami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋