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i'm really scared because i've been off school for nearly 3 months cause i got beaten up and i'm going to a new school soon i'm really scared and my parents don't understand everyone says i'm a BIG BABY i'm 13 and i'm scared of getting lost and making new friends i make myself ill and i feel like crying all the time is this normall and how can i face this fear?
thx
pinky

Answer 1

First, YOU ARE NOT A BABY!
If anyone got beaten up, no matter how grown up they are, it would be really scary to put themselves back in that situation. So yes, it's normal.
And it's normal to worry about getting lost and making friends. But you will be ok!!!! Your school should pair you up with a "buddy" to show you around and introduce you to people. Maybe you could ask for a meeting before you go, or on your first day to talk about your worries and maybe get some extra support.
The only way to face the fear is to get in there and get your first day over with. And remember that you are a nice person and that the people there will be happy and lucky to be your friends.
Good luck!! x

Answer 2

First of all, you are definitely not a "big baby"! Anyone in your shoes would feel really scared and nervous right now. People who are dismissing your feelings are just insensitive.

I know how stressful starting a new school can be and it's totally normal to feel scared - new people, new building, new rules, etc. But is this really such a bad thing? Treat starting your new school as a positive move, as a fresh start. You will meet loads of new people your age, and some of them are bound to have the same interests and attitudes as you. There might be some after-school clubs to join, where you can meet even more people.

Try not to worry too much about all this. Trust me, you will be completely fine at your new school! Good luck. :o)

Answer 3

Oh! sweetie there is no need to be worried, think off it like this a new year a fresh start, go there with your head up high and a positive attitude i can assure you that there will be a few people that will take you under there wing and show you around etc, it is compleatly natural to feel so scared after something like that happend to you at your last school, think positive and dont let the horrible people that did it to you in the past get the better off you.

YOU ARE NOT A BIG BABY! i would be exactly the same if i was in your position.

Good luck and i hope this year is a nicer one for you.

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Answer 4

When you get to the new school on that first day why not talk to the school counselor or the principal and ask if they have someone who could show you around and introduce you to a few people for a few days. It is rough and you are not being a big baby so don't let people upset you if they say that. You have had a rough time so it is normal to be nervous and anxious over this.

Answer 5

I can tell you when i ws your age I was really scared, & now that i look back, I can see the other kids acted tough but deep down they had doubts & fears too. I can see there was NOTHING to be scared of.believe me others are as scared as you & if you act like it's no big deal, believe in yourself you'll soon make lots of friends. don't worry you'll be fine. it's no big deal.
I know it's dificult being a new kid in a new school, but when i was in school, we had many new kids coming to our class, & many of them soon blended in & made lots of friends. I promise you, it's the truth.
if it helps, get this card decks, they're written by a very respected, well known author & they'll help you gain confiedence. It's through using affirmations (that is repeating positive statements to change your negative beliefs)
Honestly everyone is more or less as scared & there's no need 2 b!

Answer 6

Hey I'm in my 30's and I still get scared of new situations. Anyone who says they dont is only trying to convince themselves.
You've been through a bad time but this is a new year and a new school and once you're there things wont seem half as bad, its the getting there thats scary, everything after that will seem easy in comparison

Answer 7

Pinky, we can live in dread of the future, we can dwell on a painful past. Both of those things do nothing to help us with the only place we live, thats this moment right now. Right now is when we make our future happen. Things we expierence can leave us scared if we dwell on them. Acknowledge the fear, but realize it is not a problem now. Unless you allow it to be. This moment or tommorow are exactly what we make them/it be. Don't let a past event that is impossible to change shape your future, don't let an imagined future that has not yet happened decide your actions right now. Hang in there. Be well.

Answer 8

I can relate, i use to have had this dilemma, go to a counselor, therapist, or a psychologist. Go to one in your new school. If that doesn't help, spend more time with people, if they seem to stupid and act like jerks to you, ignore them, the more you ignore them, the more they'll probably ignore and they'll be tired. Also, spend people that you think are nice and can be friends with them. For a school, it is possible to meet atleast one person that is close alike to you. Find someone to be best-friends, not friends, cuz they usually go to their friends. If you can't do that, then try being with teachers, if your scared that people will call you teacher's pet, then talk to staff members, the more you talk to people, the less you'll be scared, talk to people about your feelings, again if you let it off your chest, you'll be less scared. This takes awhile, don't worry that you don't have no one to talk to, once they know who you are at your new school, they'll probably talk to you. =) TAKE CARE!

Answer 9

Your parents are not understanding caring people. Maybe you should approach the school - your form tutor or the head.

Of course your fear is normal considering what happened to you. The best thing to do is to try to get some confidence. Maybe take up boxing or martial arts.

Answer 10

I am surprized no one is listening to you...go to one of your councelors at school sweetheart, and express your concerns....especially because you got beat up and you are aprehensive about every thing right now...this is really normal...and you just need to make a couple of good friends that do not know ANY THING ABOUT YOU GETTING BEAT UP
..because sad to say, people will use things like that against you..and you don't want that...the Lord even says, don't let your right hand know what you're left hand is doing...and speaking of the Lord, lol...Pray to God, through Jesus, and let Them protect their little lamb..