My 15 year old daughter likes to sleep with my husband and I (not in the same bed, but the floor next to our bed). She says that she is lonely, and I don't know what to do. Is this normal? Shedoesn't hang out with her friends on weekends, but she usually hangs out with my husband and I.
I sat down to talk to her, and she says she likes sleeping in the same room with someone.
Is this normal? She's a really smart girl, excellent student, and everything, but I have never heard of a teenager sleeping with their parents.
2007-01-01 11:15:56 · 8 answers · asked by NoTrigger 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm 15 and i don't think that's normal. there might be something that is bothering her, so ask her if there is any thing she would like to tell you.
2007-01-01 12:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is somewhat strange, but extremely understandable. Being good at school is a lot of pressure. Getting good grades means making sacrifices, especially in her social life. Other kids probably don't think that being smart is cool, so she may not feel loved. I think she is trying to be closer to you and your husband because it's the place where she feels most comfortable and feels that she can be unconditionally loved. One reason she may not be hanging out with friends is because her friends are "friends" but she's not the "main" person in her group of friends. This may make her feel excluded even from "friends". It's good that you talked to her. When she says she likes sleeping with someone, it's probably just an excuse.
At night, when you lie in bed, it gives you time to think about all the bad things in life. When you sleep with someone you love, you feel comfortable and safe so that these thoughts can temporarily be assuaged. A teenager sleeping with their parents is indeed unusual, but many many teenagers her age feel the same way, just show it in different ways.
I think that you should continue to love her and make sure that she feels that she can talk to you at any time.
2007-01-01 11:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by sci-girl1492 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have two toddler daughters, a 14 yoa and a 13 yoa daughter. Our toddlers sleep with us every night, they start out in their bed, but always end up in ours. It's also not unusual for us to wake up and find the other two in bed with us, hogging the covers. We end up most nights with 6 of our 7 katz in bed and all four daughters... I wonder if they make a King and a half bed? I think our daughters just feel secure with us, I think they like us and want to get in on the sleep bonding that their little sisters do. I know my 14 yoa doesn't like to sleep by herself, and my 13 yoa will lie in bed and wig herself out thinking about scary movies, so she gets up and comes in, the her sister follows.
They are both A students, active in sports and just your regular goofy teenaged girl, but if given the choice of going out with friends or staying home with the family and watching a movie or whatever, they nearly always stay home. Could be that your daughter is going through what my kids are, she just doesn't want to sleep alone, and she likes her parents. As long as she is well adjusted otherwise, I'd just scoot over and sleep in the middle so she can have your side of the bed.
2007-01-01 11:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of it either. My niece is 13 and sleeps in her own room downstairs from her parents. Perhaps your daughter is afraid of the dark? I would tell her that she needs to sleep in her own room and what would she like you to do to make that more comfortable for her. I would not let this continue because then she may move out of the house at 18 and have to have a guy live with her because she wants someone in the room. Good luck.
2007-01-01 11:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound a bit odd.
I know you say she is smart and an excellent student but is she being bullied at school and sleeping in your room makes her feel safe. Has she always slept in your room ? If not i would try talking to her some more to see what she's scared of in her room. I wish you good luck and a happy 2007
2007-01-01 11:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by shamoolax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm about that age and I can't stand sleeping alone either. I recommend getting her a dog. A big, fat, loving lab did the trick for me. He sleeps right on my pillows every night- LOL.
It may not be the same but it takes the edge off the loneliness.
2007-01-01 11:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Eris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is quite unusual. Maybe she would like a stuffed animal or a real pet to share her bed. Has she had a traumatic experience that makes her afraid to be alone at night?Talk to the Dr. about it.
2007-01-01 11:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned and have her talk to a therapist about it. It sounds as if she is frightened of something.
2007-01-01 11:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋