My husbands adult nephew came to our house for Christmas and we took him and his girl friend and their baby out to a really nice restuarant and bought breakfast for them everyday that they were here. We got a new BBQ for Christmas and he wanted me to cook something for them on it. I said I was busy with Christmas and would not be able to. I thought it was really tacky of him to expect that and I also thought they could have gotten McDonalds one morning of the stay just to be nice. He gave us a cheap Sutter Homes smallest bottle of wine as a gift. Do you all think that was rude??????? Thanks for your input.
2007-01-01 11:13:38 · 9 answers · asked by howey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I believe they are taking advantage of your kindness. Like you, I would have excepted them to pay for at least one meal or buy some groceries. A bottle of wine is nice, if someone is staying one night! But I believe if the guests stay for more then a week, then they should "pay" you back with a nice dinner or something like that! Also, expecting you to cook them meals is completely rude! They could at least offer to help or do it themselves! I don't think you are overreacting because I would have reacted the exact same way.
2007-01-01 11:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want to buy them breakfast, then you shouldn't have taken them out. You could have let them make their own breakfast at your house - it would have been cheaper than a meal out, though still draining on your groceries.
The gift wasn't the best, but maybe they didn't expect a free ride when they came and didn't know they should bring a better gift. Or, maybe they were strapped for cash considering that they have a baby.
It's really hard to judge without more information.
On the bright side, now you know not to let them stay at your house again - or at least make it clear that they will need to supply their own food.
2007-01-01 14:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just don't have the money for that, after all the cost of traveling somewhere these days is outrageous. Why did you feel as if you had to take them out to eat, or buy breakfast. Are donuts or muffins not good enough? I don't think they are being rude at all. Just remember the old saying, "Company, like fish starts to stink after four days."
2007-01-01 14:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it reads like you feel you were put out a little by the stay,this is why i believe in hotels.i wouldn't say rude but,they did take full advantage.if you were paying for breakfast you should of just went to mic dees .i personally would have dona a buffet at home cheaper.i do feel the gift could have been a bit more thoughtful but,maybe they had no money.that is why they put you out.next time i would say; i'm sorry but guests will have to stay at a hotel we have no room.
2007-01-01 11:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, not rude. They're guests. They aren't required to treat you to any meals, nor bring a gift. It would be nice if they offered, but not rude if they don't. Next time you know what to expect from their visit.
Perhaps, they'll treat you as nice as you've treated them when you go to visit them.
2007-01-01 13:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you invited them, then you definately are in charge for the entertainment. according to probability no longer grilling, in spite of the undeniable fact that it grew to become into in uncomplicated terms a guiding principle, no longer an order. And as for looking down on a contemporary because of the fact it wasn't high priced, shame on you. You sound like a petty, inexpensive, and confident, impolite hostess.
2016-10-06 07:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by blumenkrantz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally, I think they were being slightly rude, but not too rude. They ARE guests and you should REALLY expect the worst from them. Any questions just ask me cokebub3@yahoo.com .
2007-01-01 11:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Cale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that's all they could afford. you should stop being so generous. like my parents. treat people like royalty and then they leave and they never heard from them again.!
2007-01-01 12:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're having financial problems and this was all they could afford.
Rude.....no.
2007-01-01 12:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋