I really care for my boyfriend and think about him often but i don't have much lust for him ie) i dont kiss back...i dont like the idea of him slobbering over me-makes my hair stand on ends (i just dont find him hot enough to makeout with but i love him alot and enjoy his company when we're alone)............what should i do? I think we're more than friends but less than the avg romantic couple...agh......we are on 'break' right now b/c of this very issue...what should i do??
2007-01-01 11:13:12 · 13 answers · asked by dcw d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really care for my boyfriend and think about him often but i don't have much lust for him ie) i dont kiss back...i dont like the idea of him slobbering over me-makes my hair stand on ends (i just dont find him hot enough to makeout with but i love him alot and enjoy his company when we're alone)............what should i do? I think we're more than friends but less than the avg romantic couple...agh......we are on 'break' right now b/c of this very issue...what should i do??
*edit* Ooh dear...all your responses make it seem so straight fwd but it's so complex in my mind. see....we started out as best friends (doh!). If we break up, how can we remain friends if i can't imagine him with another girl without feeling terribly depressed? Fact is, if we break up- there would be nothing between us anymore. I'm afraid to brave that step...because i value his company. We Cant go back to being 'just friends'-even if we could it would be just like a coffee date once in a blue moon.id miss him.
2007-01-01 11:37:19 · update #1
i think u should just c other people if ur not rlly feelin what u used to try talking and c how he feels just explain that ur losing feelings for him and mayb u should go on a trail split or just tell him u wanna take it slow and enjoy him instead of jumpin in and feeling uncomfortable
2007-01-01 11:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue being friends and tell him the truth. Your relationship is good but to have a lasting relationship that envolves romance you have to want to be romantic and lust for the guy. If not you will remain like this for as long as you are w/him. When you first became friends or wanted a relationship there had to be a bit of a flame, what happened to it, try to rekindle if you can but if it's not worth it, don't even try, you'll make a mess of things....
2007-01-01 11:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by turtledove264 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife is the same way. She is my best friend. It depends on what he wants out of life. The affection is nice but I feel that everything else as far as compatability is more important. My choice has been to keep what I have and after 15 years we still have not had a single fight.
2007-01-01 11:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to say bye bye, because your only going to keep going down hill, and sooner or later you will hit rock bottom. Many people stay together for the wrong reasons and its always a bad turnout.
2007-01-01 11:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that you lust for! Without lust, you really don't have much going for you. Sorry to say, but lust is the spice of life! I don't see how you can love someone that you don't lust!
2007-01-01 11:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand kissing the guy then it is not true love!! Let him go so he can find love that includes kissing each other and ect. Plus, you can also find the true love that you can be affectionate too.
2007-01-01 11:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? You should let him go find himself someone who will adore him, then you could go find someone who lights you up like a christmas tree. Anything less than that is a waste of time.
2007-01-01 11:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if the break wil rekindle your desire!
Remember, we all go through the dry times; where we don't feel interested in the lovey, dovey stuff!
2007-01-01 11:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. It's only going to ruin his self-confidence, and it's only a matter of time before he finds someone who appreciates his advances, or before you find someone that does turn you on. I don't see a logical reason to continue this.
2007-01-01 11:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually it is the lack of love and not lust that divides couples. Should you revise your question perhaps?
2007-01-01 11:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋