okay well im 13 and my first time was with a guy who is a junior in highschool and i ended up pregnant and I had a baby girl and he never called me again and ive havent really seen him since because hes in high school and once my bus went by him and i waved but he just stared at me basically. next year he will be a senior and and im not sure if i should tell him! we werent even going out and as far as i know he has a gf. what should i do? part me just wants to never talk to him again and another part wants me too tell him that he now has a daughter!
2007-01-01 10:34:33 · 12 answers · asked by csi_sanders_lover8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah he does have a job he works at zumiez
2007-01-01 10:42:12 · update #1
that's pretty sad that u already hav a baby. I think he does deserve 2 no though. He might end up ignoring you, but atleast you now know how he feels about the suitation. Make the right choice and tell him!
2007-01-01 10:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know, he should know, he has a responsibility to know and legally he could go to jail for what he did. GF or not he took the time to be with you without protection, he should be aware of the consequences of his action. That's what being a man is all about. Now should you marry him?!? I don't think so, but he should help in raising the child he helped father. What will you tell his daughter one day when she asks about her father? IF he knows, he may be a part of her life. I won't try to make it seem like he's gonna be around and do all that he can, but then he may not turn and run either. He should be given the opportunity to do something. He needs to be aware of his fathering responsibilities. that somewhere, he will have a child that he wasn't even man enough to face or take care of. Some one else will have to raise his child because he wasn't fit enough or didn't have enough self respect to do it himself. Children come 1st, before you, before him, before tv, before a party, that's how life is. They don't care about anything but food, clothing and pooping. He needs to be made aware of his actions. And not in a round a bout way. Be as straight with him as he was when he fathered this child!
2007-01-01 18:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to bust his butt and make him pay for the ride. The child deserves to know who the father is and although the two of you will need to get by without him, knowing who the father is takes away many questions. He had the fun now make him pay the dues. Anyone knocking up a person as young as you should be in prison not on the loose.
2007-01-01 18:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know that he is the father and your child deserves a relationship with him too. Who cares if he has a gf?!? He will definitely need to help out with child support so get his job info, etc since he is a senior and should be working soon....Best of luck to you!
2007-01-01 18:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! that is really sad...i am so sorry!!!
i think there is nothing to lose if u tell him -- if anything, he will get what he deserved if he doesn't help u take care of ur baby which i, sadly, think he probably won't do...he needs to take responsibility for his actions...and also, if he isn't going to help u take care of ur guys' child, then at least if other people hear and know that he has a child, people will think very poorly of the fact that he doesn't take care or help out with the kid and he used u etc...
make sure u tell him
good luck
sorry, but i am really glad that u r taking care of and care so much about ur child
xao:)
2007-01-01 18:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him! He has the right to know he has a daughter and you shouldn't take all the blame for this situation after all it's his fault too.
2007-01-01 18:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Baby_cakes_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell him and make him pay child support once he starts working. Good Luck.
2007-01-01 18:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should some how get some one on one time wiht just u and him and tell him about everything remind him and tell him that he has a daughter but if he don't want to contribute/ help u then just for get about him.. good luck and god bless you
2007-01-01 18:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kali Gavette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should def. tell him! What have you got to lose?
Nothing.
<3
2007-01-01 18:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by xxunxamorxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell him. good luck
2007-01-01 18:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋