So i was dating this guy and he went to jail. I promised to stay by his side untill he got out cause I wasnt quick to judge. I sent him money and wrote to him everyday. I even Paid for him to call me. we were together for like 4 months before this. I was soo heart broken when he left for jail. He called after a week and said that he was out. But didnt want me to come over cause he was really tired. then he started ignoring me.. and not calling me back. He called My voice mail while I was working and told me he was still in love with his EX and she was going to give him another chance. I was Hurt like no other. Lately he has been calling me and telling me that they are having problems and wants me to come over. A part of me wants to cause I think i love him. But I also want him to hurt like I hurt when he broke it off. What do i do?
2007-01-01 10:28:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a classic unfortunately...even among people who don't end up in jail. He went back to his ex, not she's not working out, and he wants to see if you're still available.
Personally, you seem like a catch (perhaps not the best judgement, but you stood by your man at a time when a lot of women would have dumped him) and I don't think you need to put up with this.
I think he's looking for a mama, or at least a babysitter. You need to find a grown-up that can treat you like an equal. If he really wants to make this work, he needs to break it off with the ex and seduce you from scratch...make him work for it...if he will, he might be salvagable.
Personally, I think he'll just find someone else to take care of him.
2007-01-01 10:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be hurt and bitter. You was there for him and you stood by him when he went to jail. He took advantage of you and then blew you off when he got out of jail.Do not let him back in your life. You are nice person and you deserve someone better. He hurt you and that is something you just cannot over look. Take this as a lesson learn and allow no man to ever use like he did again.
2007-01-01 10:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, u should stay away and seek out of this relationship, unless ur wiling to serve urself as seconds. I dont got anything about x-convicts, or people doing time, cause thier all not the same. But u staying with, writing to him, and paying for the calls... during probably hard times he went through, and then get out and throw to the bush, is not a good indication that he has any desire to be with u ...If u go back with him, he will hurt u again.
2007-01-01 10:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, this guy seems like a loser. Well, I know you want to be with him because you still care for him. But, stop and think about the situation before you jump back into his arms. I mean, he ditched you after he found something better. And now, it's not working so he wants you back. Forgive him, because if you don't forgive him, you won't be able to move on. Forgive yourself and start fresh with him. Stay friends and keep it that way. You deserve much more than what he's willing to give you, he's already proved he's a punk. Good luck..
2007-01-01 10:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take his calls, do not go over. You are the consolation prize. Did it occur to you that maybe they are having problems because he has gotten into trouble again?
Just ask yourself 2 questions. Did he thank you for all that you did for him right when he was released? Who did he go to when he wanted to be with someone? I'm sorry, but it wasn't you. He obviously has a connection with his ex - and your 4 months invested didn't seem to matter. Save yourself a heartache and move on. Change your number and tell him that he had his chance.
2007-01-01 10:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems such as you have gotten harm him you may not tell a guy which you enjoyed him for an prolonged time and then say not anymore. It sounds like he truthfully likes you lots so perhaps you will desire to tell him the actuality this time and ask him the place issues would desire to bypass
2016-10-19 08:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by quinteros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a fly by nite loser, say good riddance. Think more of yourself than to get involved with such a loser. Apparently, while you were sending him money and pouring you're heart out while he was in jail, so was she. Let it go.
2007-01-01 10:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come first. Don't put yourself (again) in a situation where you will get hurt. You may still have feelings for him, but that doesn't mean he need to be in your life. Let things go.
2007-01-01 10:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up,move on & learn from this exp.He is only going to use you for a ____ on the side.You know that you can do a whole lot better than him.It's a NEW YEAR enjoy & have fun.
2007-01-01 10:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother with this guy.He isn't worth it. Find yourself someone else. This guy sounds like he only wants to be with you when his ex is gone.Find yourself a guy who will appreciate you. You can do better.
2007-01-01 10:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋