friends. I feel so alone. I feel trapped. I know theres so many things I can do with my life because I dont have any kids and I'm healthy. And I just want so bad to just pack my things and travel, make friends, go back to school, get my own place. If I decide to pick up and leave my city, what can I do? If youre a female around my age have you ever done this? Please tell me how what should I do? Right now Im in the process of looking for another job bc I quit my last one. Since I dont have a degree its like I keep quitting jobs bc im so bored with them. Please ladies if you have any advice for me to get out of this situation plz tell me. I feel like a girl who is trying to find womanhood but Ive never had any advice or guidance from my mom or anyone. She's all into her man and thats it. I feel like my life is passing me by. I need help. I'm completely sane and nothings wrong with me its just I've been feeling hopeless and lost.
2007-01-01 10:14:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you know what you want to do. You just need to get started. I was 25 when I moved to another city with my 6 year old daughter. It was scary, but we lived with relatives for a couple of months so I could get a job and get my own apartment. I went to temp agencies and proved myself invaluable to a company who wanted to hire me permanently. It wasn't easy, but I did this same thing 3 times and each time was a stepping stone for me and my daughter. I ended up back in Texas (my home state) with a great job and I was able to buy a house for us. I then met my wonderful husband and even bought a dog. Like I said, it wasn't easy, but let me tell you, it was well worth it. I also prayed alot. Good luck to you! Go start your life!
2007-01-01 10:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for both you and your child. I was put up for adoption, and I am so glad I was. I have an absolutely wonderful family, I am extremely close to both my parents, and the only thing that ever concerns me is that I don't know my family health history. Now you can have open adoptions, so you can choose how much involvement you want to have. If you feel you can care for a child, and there is someone around that can give her a strong male influence (not to replace her Dad, but just so she knows how a good man is supposed to treat a woman etc etc), and not feel as if you have lost your freedom, than maybe you should consider keeping your child. Children are the best blessings ever, and it will be extremely emotional to put your child up for adoption. I guess I didn't give you an answer either way, but that is because it is so personal. Only you know if you can handle it and if it is the best thing for your baby. People are gonna yell at me for saying this, but if you are truly a loving mom, you will decide based on what is best for your child, and give little consideration to your own feelings. So if you think that you will be a good mother at this time of your life until the end of your life, keep your baby. If you aren't sure, or if you would rather wait, give your baby to a family that is ready and stable, and work out with them how involved you want to be in the child's life. I hope you come to a decision that is a great choice for you and your child! P.S. Usually abuse in adoptive homes occur when the child is adopted much older, not while the child is a newborn. If the child is adopted to a family as an infant (and especially if you pick the family), there is about equal chance that the family would be abusing the child as there is of your babysitter or her father or a future bf of yours abusing the baby. Adoption is misconstrued by a lot of people.
2016-03-29 03:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a 23 year old female and i gotta tell you..i was feeling the same way 2 years ago, so i decided to up and move to another state...BAD MOVE for me. I didn't know what I wanted I just knew I wanted a change and thought maybe that was how to get it, but the only thing it did was really mess my life up. I lossed everything, all my money and the few friends I had. I couldnt find a job because it was harder there in a totally different state. May I suggest to you to find another job where you are now..even one you get bored of, and save up money to move out and get your own place. But I wouldn't drop everything unless you have a plan..just get another job, and you may meet someone you can be friends with and move in with them..good luck sweety and know that this isn't forever and it will get better. Dont mess things up worse...
2007-01-01 10:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so not alone. I've been a waitress since I was 16 and I'm 22 now. I still live with my bf and his 'rents (been together 7 yrs).......and I never graduated HIGH school!!! All I can say is that you have to start somewhere. Once you take that first big step, it's all behind you from there. Get a pell grant for college or something, get a job in the school's library or waitress in the meantime, move into a small apartment just for you for a while........just take a step. It's a new year!! Good luck.
2007-01-01 10:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you go back to school and get a degree in whatever it is that you are passionate about. There's no point in wasting your time working at jobs that are meaningless and unfulfilling. At least when you go to school you can get out and meet people and start to develop a social life. Plus staying with mom will help you financially. Once you are done with school go out and find a career, not some dead end job. Then go out and find a place to live on your own. It may take some time but it is wiser to finish school first. Without a degree you may not find a job that pays well and is something you would like doing.
2007-01-01 10:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't have quit your job until you had found another one, because it seems like you will be in your situation for awhile. Once you get another job, save up, and go back to school. Then you will meet people. Education is very important. Also budget yourself for your expenses and think about if you are going to be able to support yourself financially. Even if you cannot afford an apartment, try looking at the rates of renting rooms. Eventually down the line, you will get your degree, be able to move out, and travel.
2007-01-01 10:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes - when I was 22 years old (Now I am 25). I needed a change. I had just graduated college but was living at home and working at a donut shop. What I did was get rid of all my stuff......and kept just the necessities (clothes...and my guitar). I hopped on a train and headed to Cincinnati...I grew up in Connecticut. I paid $76 for a train ticket and made my way. I only stayed out there for less than a year before I came back but it really opened my eyes. It was a nice refreshing break from my life but it also helped me to realize what I was leaving behind. I was able to clear my head. I waitressed at Chilis to make money while I was out there.
Now I am back and I have a GREAT job and things are looking up.
2007-01-01 10:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's your plan.
a. Get a job and KEEP IT.
b. Save yourself enough to enroll in college and COMPLETE IT.
While you're doing that here are some other suggestions:
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents and your teachers
7. Get involved in a worthy function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10.Go to Church
11.Invite your friends to Church
12.Take group dance lessons
Good Luck
2007-01-01 10:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by snvffy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just stop feeling sorry for yourself. Go back to school, get a degree in something that interests you. Get a job and move out. You can meet a lot of people in school and develop some friendships. It sounds like you want things to be handed to you, but you are an adult now and have to work (at a paying job, at school and to develop friendships) to get the things you want.
2007-01-01 10:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not ur age im a litte younger but i would get simple job like work at a fast food place or a grocery store or somethin when u get anough money buy ur self a little apartment then u should go to college so u can get a better job and last but not least,lol i luv sayin that well any way finally find ur self a man just hav fun ur younge go places make friends ur younge anough to do any thing and old anough to do anything
2007-01-01 10:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by leelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋