My husbands controlling ex has managed to plan an out of town vacation during the time he was suppose to get them for Christmas, so we haven't had Christmas with them yet. Technically, next weekend is her time with them, so we may not even see them for 2 more weeks. I do not want to keep this tree up for another 2 weeks. My toddler and my cat are both constantly pulling ornaments off it, so I really want to go ahead and take it down. But I keep debating over whether or not I should keep it up until my stepkids come over for Christmas.
2007-01-01 10:09:11 · 12 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The kids are 10, 12, and 13.
Their mom is continuously making plans for the kids on my husbands weekends, so I really don't know the kids well enough to know if they would care if I took it down.
And I don't say anything bad about their mom in front of him. I said that comment on here, but that doesn't mean that I would say that in front of them.
2007-01-01 10:32:32 · update #1
Yes you can take it down. They won't be to dissappointed in not seeing it. They know Christmas was 2 weeks ago.
2007-01-01 10:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Traditionally, the 12 days of Christmas go from Dec. 25th to Jan. 06th which is Kings Day - when the 3 Magi visited the baby bringing gifts. That is why many cultures put their trees up on Christmas Eve. It is only with recent commercialized competition that people feel the need to decorate so early.
As for your step-children, I am sorry to hear that you have to deal with these difficulties. The kids know that Christmas has passed, so take it down if you feel ready to. They'll be bored of the gifts they got at Christmas by the time you see them, so your gifts will be their new favorite things, so her plan will have backfired in some way. By the way, if she is not complying with court-ordered visitation schedules, it's time to go back in to court!
2007-01-01 19:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - it's unfair to them to take the tree down, they can't help it their mother took them out of town. Celebrate like Christmas is the day they open their presents, make it feel like Christmas & fun. Just take the ornaments off of the bottom half of the tree to help keep the little one & the cat from messing it up too much.
2007-01-01 18:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A) Their Christmas with their father is more important then the minor inconvenience of a few dropped needles and ornament chasing.
B) Regardless of what you feel about the controlling ex, the step kids that you love (I'm sure you do, because they are part of the man you love) love her and want to think that you at least don't hate her. Not only should you refrain from negativity about their mom, don't allow them to be negative either. My stepson once made a negative comment about his mom in front of me, and I told him," Even if you feel like that right now, I know you love your mom, and I won't allow a bad thing to be said about her in this house."
C) Enjoy your tree. It's the Christmas season until January 6th, the Epiphany.
2007-01-01 18:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by bridalbecca 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, take the tree down. You can do something special and different with them. If they ask then let them know why you took it down (its two weeks after christmas, the cat, etc. )...just dont blame it on the mother.
Also...do you have a court order? if she keeps violating the court order then she can get in trouble...if you were supposed to have them for christmas then that should have been your time. The court order is there to protect you...use the courts to make her abide by it if she keeps taking your time away from you.
2007-01-02 00:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT going to believe this and will be amazed. I love christmas and always did. When my father used to take the tree down after christmas when i was small, i was always broken hearted. One time (when i was 6yrs old) i even hugged the tree because i knew it was coming down the next day and i would miss the happieness that it made me feel. Now, 23 years later, i leave it up well into Janurary! And why not?!!! Its lovely to have it up !
When i was 6yrs old, all i wanted was someone to create "CHRISTMAS 2". Keep the tree up and show them something you're husbands x can never provide for them. Give them the wish i never got. "Christmas2". They will NEVER forget it. Trust me. xxxx
2007-01-01 18:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by tomy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it a real tree? or artificial? If it's real, could you possibly put it up in the yard with lights and "stuff" for the birds on it?
If it's artificial could you just leave the lights and a few ornaments towards the top,,or just the unbreakable ones left on...
Do you know them well enough to know that they'd be disappointed if there wasn't a tree up?
What are their ages?
How does your husband feel about this?
2007-01-01 18:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Boopsie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep the tree up until his kids get to have Christmas with their Father. You married a man with children already, so you will need to learn to be a bit more flexible. And keep the comments about his ex (their Mother) to a minimum. She is their Mother not just some person that you don't like.
2007-01-01 18:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Keep up the tree. It will show your steps kids that you truely care abotu them
2007-01-01 18:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could but you will ruin the christmas spirit!
It's up to you cause,you could still make it feel christmasy still when you give them their presents.
2007-01-01 18:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋