How do you tell her to mind her own business?
2007-01-01 10:06:25 · 17 answers · asked by Isabelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Always - drives me insane!!! Like I'm not capable of doing anything. I find the best thing is to choose selective hearing cos tho' I don't like to admit it but sometimes she is right other times I just think she's being totally ridiculous and will over emphasize YES MOTHER! and then do the complete opposite! Your Mum will never mind her own business ... its just an irritating way of showing you she cares and I guess we will all just have to wait to be grandparents to understand what its all about!
2007-01-01 23:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have to say I completely agree with the one here called shellysna. Read her answer and I feel the same. I have went through this with my elder daughter, and we havent spoken in over two years. Its called respect, because ask your self, what was the question? You want to know if your Mother knows better how to raise a child? She raised you didn't she? Even if you dont agree with her methods, even if you believe yourself to be a better parent, it doesn't hurt to listen to the older generation. They have been there, done that. Experience counts you know. So respectfully listen, and agree, then go on to raise your children the way you feel best to raise them. I have to say, all the advice I was given when I had my young ones, was worth its weight in gold. No I didn't do everything they suggested, but I learned from them, my Mother and my Mother in law, and my elder Aunts. When it comes to raising children right, any good advice is worth listening to. You use what you want, and shelf the rest out of respect.
2007-01-01 16:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by meohmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but my mother in law does.......
We argued but that isnt my advice lol
I have since explained that they are my children and I will raise them the way I see fit.....
But no, I don't have all the answers and should I need some advice I will be sure to call her..........
Basically wait until you are asked rather than giving advice when its not needed, things have changed a lot since there days
2007-01-01 10:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She does think so, and I am old enough now to just let her carry on thinking so, and get on and do what I want to. It saves fighting and you don't have to tell her to mind her own business. If it all goes wrong, just play her game and say you misunderstood her, and try something else.
2007-01-01 10:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its the way things go, I am 6O and MY mother is still telling me what to do, even about my kids who are in their 2O-3Os and I tell them, mainly because we DO in actual fact know better in MOST cases.
I hate to say this, but you will be doing exactly the same thing to your kids in about 2O years from now, it will all echo back to you, as it did to us!! lol.
Stepping outside the square picture, you can see things clearer?
What I do, and my girls do! Is to agree quietly and then proceed to do what you was gonna do.
Please don't fall out with your Mum, she must have done something right ..........well most of the time.
Well you are the living proof huh?
2007-01-01 12:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun us mothers always think we know best and we can do it the proper way, you will realise when your kids grow up and they do something and you try and tell them to do it another way. then you can look back on this and think omg i think i know best for my kids. us mothers never seem to remember that the times have changed since i had my kids and it is best left up to the proper mother to raise her kids how she wants to. as you was raised by your mother and you are teaching your kids the same way as your mom is but in with the times of now, not years ago when you was growing up cause times have changed.
just tell your mom that you don't mind her advising you but not to TELL you what to do as you was brought up in a different time and now you are bringing your kids up as you see fit for the children of today.
good luck x
2007-01-01 10:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by kjw 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just simply tell your mother that you love her and you're thankful for her input, but that you are the mother of your child and that you want to raise her your own way that you believe is best.
2007-01-01 10:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Summer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop visiting her. Tell her directly that you will raise your children your own way and for her to butt out.
2007-01-01 19:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum knows it all, she has had 4 children all grown up well, the fact she calls my daughter a bi*ch (11 yrs old) and she used to beat us and make us eat of the kitchen floor seems to escaped her mind, nowadays she would be locked up
2007-01-01 11:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by trouble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes she knows more...she raised you...she's not interfering she's guiding, listen to her and take her advice...mums are always right, if you told her to mind her own business it would be very rude....don't hurt her feelings...she's trying to help that's all....
2007-01-01 12:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋