At 55 my very sexually active husband of 35 years had serious prostate surgery for cancer.?

Question

This left him nearly impotent. In these 3 years we have mostly adjusted to not having sex as it is difficult and alot of the time unsucessful even with the new drugs. It is ok with me most of the time. But if anyone else is living with this in their marriage I would like to hear from you.

Answer 1

I just posted a similar question on here but husb didn't have prostate trouble...we both have seen (together) the options...rings and gadgets to put on but to us it looked like it would kill the moment by time you got those things on and my husb can't take the medicines out there, also implants are not covered by insurance and way to expensive for us.
What I have tried to do is continue to support him with hugs, love, pats, you name it.....that I fell first in love with him..the sex had just been an extra benefit for those years. My meds has sex low on my priority list now also so that helps me too.
Hang in and my wishes for you both

Answer 2

I'm no expert on this subject, but my grandfather is about to go in for his own prostate surgery in less than a week. They have not been sexually active in a while due to this same problem. His doctors have told him that after he gets his surgery he can look into some types of drugs that can help with the symptoms of impotency. Perhaps if not being able to have sex is a problem for you and your husband you and he could visit the doctor together and see if this is a possiblility for you as well. If it has been 3 years, maybe he can't take the medicine or maybe there is a different kind he could try.

I know sex isnt everything, but some couples equate sex with love, and closeness...I'm not saying that is right, or correct, but all a matter of personal opinion, but if you guys have always been very sexual active, it may take a toll on your personal relationship to not be able to now. I suggest you try a different doctor and try to find new medicines. I wish you the best of luck and hope i was able to help some :)

Answer 3

You don't have to live with ED caused by prostate cancer

There are many treatments available for impotence. Today, doctors are successfully treating more men than ever. Viagra and other drugs, penile implants, vacuum erection devices, injection therapy, and urethral suppositories are options.

Viagra increases blood flow to the penis. Many men find it effective. However, Viagra fails for 30% - 40% of men who try it. Also, clinical data shows Viagra's effectiveness for a radical prostatectomy patient to be quite low.

Men who have not had success with Viagra should seek other treatments. Among available treatments, a penile implant often is the most effective long-term solution as well as the best choice for maximum sexual spontaneity.

Implants have been enhanced and perfected over a period of 25 years. Nearly 300,000 men have had a penile implant. Clinical studies show a very high degree of satisfaction with penile implants.

If you have ED related to prostate cancer or its treatment, see a doctor (usually a urologist specializing in the treatment of ED) Work with the doctor and your partner to determine the best treatment for you. There is a very good chance you will find a treatment that will help you achieve a firm erection.

www.erectilerestoration.com/
Prostate-Cancer-Treatment.html

Answer 4

To begin with, I'm sorry the surgeon didn't take the extra time to perform the procedure without severing the nerve(s) in question, assuming they were salvagable to begin with. Maybe he had a golf tee time pressing?

That said, I have to state....SCREAM even...sex is more than penis in vagina. In the case of a male, an erection is not necessary to achieve orgasm if there is adequate stimulation, unless he has no feeling left whatsoever. In any case, your husband may have to rely on a backup plan such as using his mouth, hand, or toys to pleasure you.

A couple of years ago there was news about a spinal implant for women that would give them an orgasm at the push of a button. Something like that for men might be available soon.

Best of luck. My advice might not work for more conservative-in-bed-types, but that's easily overcome by heartfelt communication and some experimentation.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Why not try a herbalist? Or acupuncturist? Certain herbs will support prostate (saw palmetto) and others will improve sexual function.. (rhodiola etc) and others for anxiety/stress, depending on if he's still on meds.. Best of luck to ye both.

Answer 7

I'm not sure what your attraction was when you were married but if the main attraction was sex than your probably feeling very much alone with your partner. Maybe you can find other qualities in him that are strong enough to keep you both together and happy.

Answer 8

As I explained to another person get in touch with Dr Rath. He has helped people with cancer using his unique treatments that work with aids too. His website www.dr-rath.com or www.drrathresearch.org or key Dr Rath in Google.

Answer 9

Sex isn't everything..have some compassion for your hubby....Just being with eachother is sometimes enough!