I am newly separated and on my way to divorce. I haven't dated in 8 years. How do I go about meeting men? I have 2 small children so I can't just drop everything and go out. I don't really do the bar scene and I don't have a lot a cash being a single mom.
2007-01-01 10:00:46 · 13 answers · asked by passionatemilf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The marriage is not worth saving, he's mentally and emotionally abusive. And when I said small children, I meant ages 1 & 3.
2007-01-01 10:06:47 · update #1
The web is a good place to start .... the upside with it is that you can do it from home in your pjs at 10pm if you wanted ... With two small children, childcare and finances are certainly issues to be considered ... don't blame you for not wanting to drop everything or do the bar scene ... at least with a reputable dating site, you can kinda pre-screen people and get a sense if there is any interest to pursue a face to face meeting.
I would suggest that you do a bit of research into dating sites before joining or posting a profile to see which one suits you. While most sites will let you post your profile free, you may need a membership to receive/respond to messages sent (like Match.com). Other sites, like lavalife.com let you post a profile, send smiles and respond to email for free but you buy credits (pay as you go) to send an e-mail/IM. Someone mentioned e-harmony, which requires a membership but they "guarantee" at least so many matches. Personally I'd be leary of some of the completely free sites, as a friend of mine puts it "who can't afford that" and there are some really weird people that go on there. Of course, their are wierd people and good people everywhere, so sometimes its the luck of the draw!
If the web doesn't do it for ya, consider connecting with some parenting groups i.e. lone parents, separated/divorced parents, letting your friends know that you are interested in dating and do they have anyone they could introduce you to or accompany you on events say a singles night or speed dating?
One last note - when you do start meeting people, let them know upfront you have children (this can be a deal breaker for many) but keep your children separate from your relationship, until you know its significant and potentially lasting.
Good luck with it.
2007-01-01 11:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 08:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by quinteros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean other than here?
The real key is you've got to find reliable child care. Not every night, maybe not even once a week, but you need to start planning now how you're going to find a little time for yourself in the single-parenthood trap. (Is there anyone in the area that can watch the kinds now and then for you?)
After that where you meet people is kind of up to you. I don't think bars and clubs are going to work very well given that you have a sitter waiting at home for you...but you need to find a hobby, or a church works well if that's your thing. The key is to get out there where you even have a chance of coming across someone that shares interests with you...the rest tends to take care of itself.
2007-01-01 10:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by David G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should try a dating website. They used to be all very cheesy, but things have changed alot. Something like Match.com can be a huge advantage in the dating game.
2007-01-01 10:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are truly not many place to meet genuine guys --- the online dating scene is a jungle but it is possible to meet "good" people --- try a few find one you are comfortable with and dont believe the hype --- some of the most heavily promoted "sex" sites may be a good conversation place and you may meet someone genuine
2007-01-01 10:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any friends that can set you up with someone? How about any single fathers at the school? are your kids into sports? that is a good place to meet men. just give it time and you will find someone. good luck.
2007-01-01 10:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming your a heads up and sharp person, the word gets out very fast that you will be "available to date" and with that alone you'll have no trouble getting dates. Take it slow and easy, opportunity will be there for you soon enough.
2007-01-01 10:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have just the answer that will garantee a solution to your problem.go to church honey. meet Jesus hes the first and most important man your gonna need. All other problems will disapear through faith. you might be an unbeliver but just TRY theres no pain in that.Much success.
God Bless
2007-01-01 10:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by frank_schul 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well just be patient, i nkow someone is right for you somewhere out there, he may pop up today for all i know. LOL
2007-01-01 10:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by smashleyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should put the time and energy looking for a date into saving your marriage.
2007-01-01 10:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋