is it wrong or and impolite, rude, to tell people to "get off their lazy butts and get a job"?

Question

even if people are asking for something, is it impolite and or wrong to tell them "to get a job,and stop leeching off the rest of working society" why do people have to work, and "fit in" as the expression goes, if they do not want to" also, is it rude to think in terms of "bring back the draft" what is the matter with not voluteering or "fighting for this country" or at least, is it not something to complain about, or try to force a person into?

Answer 1

In general, it's rude to say antagonistic things like that to people. There's no question that some folks really are are lazy, but how would you know, if you didn't know the person and his circumstances? There are certainly times when "tough love" might be appropriate with a family member, a friend, or someone you're in charge of at work, but calling a person you don't know "lazy" is mean-spirited and presumptive, not helpful.

Yes, I get annoyed with people who take advantage of the system and waste my tax dollars, but being mad at them accomplishes little except raising my blood pressure. As long as there are those who are justifiably helped by welfare, well, I'll tolerate a certain amount of mooching. Not like anyone on welfare lives like a king.

As for your question about the draft, no, of course, it's not rude to have an opinion on the subject, but there are polite ways to voice that opinion and nasty ways to. Suggesting that people who don't have jobs should be rounded up and thrown in the army would be an example of a nasty way.

Answer 2

I would have to say that in this situation it all depends on how well you know the person. If it is a close friend or a family member then by all means light the fire to get them working. But if it is a stranger, someone you barely know, or someone you see on the street then just don't say anything. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Life is a hard thing to deal with. Some people get the short end of the stick with the hands that life deals them sometimes. You don't know what people have gone through. You don't know what has happened to this person to have to be in this situation. My family used to be dependent on the state and it was of no fault of ours.
How does one "fit in" in today's society? Our culture is so diverse that fitting in is nearly imposable because there is no one way to fit in. Everyone has a place where they are accepted. Everyone "fits in" somewhere. There is no one way to do it and there is no one way to make life easier. If you are in a bind, you simply have no choice. You have to live and keep hope alive and keep moving on through whatever you are going through that is weighing you down. So I would say in reference to your questions that saying things like that is very IMPOLITE, RUDE, and INCONSIDERATE. It all goes back to the statement "think before you speak".

Answer 3

I live in Houston, Texas, and we are still providing for Katrina victims. They want free housing, transportation, food... and the list goes on. If FEMA threatens to cut them off, they start screaming. Many of these people are able bodied and in their 20's. They've never worked a day in their lives. I was all for helping them after the hurricane, but come on.... how long does this free hand out have to go on. Also, our crime rate has increased since they were brought here. I was recently in East Texas for a visit ( Hurricane Rita pounded hell out of that region). People got their checks from FEMA... but did they repair their roofs or property? No, instead they used those checks to put a new Hummer in the driveway. There is still blue tarp over homes to serve as roofs.

Answer 4

It's incredibly rude to make snap judgements about people and throw your poor opinion of them in their face. That homeless guy asking for some spare change? Could very well have a mental disease that makes it impossible to keep a job. Maybe he's even a vet who fell through the (ever-widening) cracks after coming back home. Or maybe he got laid off the same week his wife got cancer and his car fell apart, and everything just ended up too much and he lost his home and can't get back on his feet. The thing is, you don't know people's situation, and assuming that a) you do and b) you're right is presumptuous, rude, and just plain nasty.

Answer 5

Wrong, impolite, rude? Yes. Hilarious? Absolutely.

Answer 6

Sometimes the truth hurts, and sometimes it's that little tinge of pain that is good to help self-motivate. Dude, it is never wrong or impolite, or rude to speak your Truth! Ever.

Truth Hurts.
To betray your self in order not to betray another is the highest betrayal of all. Always speak your truth.

Answer 7

you can't force people to do anything they don't want to do. words will not change their attitude-- nor will the draft. there have been and always will be lazy people who won't work. only difference is that now days people have welfare to live off of.

you will make the person mad if you do tell them exactly how you feel.... that is part of the decision you will have to make.... whether it is worth it to tell them how you feel and change your relationship with them.

another thing to consider-- is it any of your business? really. would you like someone butting into your decisions? unless, of course, it is someone living in your house. that always makes a difference... but if it is someone outside of your roof-- think about how you would feel if someone pointed out something wrong in your life. whether it is right or wrong... it would probably make you mad that they got into your business.

i am not saying it is right to be lazy... those people make me mad too. i just mind my own business unless it is someone living in my house-- then it is my business.

Answer 8

Depends on how closely related you are to the bum!

I tried it with a 40 year old friend. He worked just enough to keep the wolf pack from the door. Lived at his parents, in the garage, drove a beater, ran credit cards to the limit. Filthy, foul, and mean to his girlfriend.
Anyway, he got so p.o'd at me, we haven't spoken in 7 years.
That's OK, though, he doesn't owe me money. LOL
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Answer 9

Well in a way. Some people like me other than my left side of my body having cerebral palsy, I look normal, but I have uncontrollable seizures & copd & have been on disability for over 10 years.It bothers me when people automatically assume I'm on welfare & not ssd. If I had not developed seizures I would have been making a bundle but there's no sense in looking into what could have been

Answer 10

It is not politically correct, but who cares? Some people who are homeless are good people who've had horrible tragedies in their lives, but many more are just alcoholics and drug addicts, and they never deserve our pity. I encourage you to keep sending the same message to everyone, just like you're doing. Political correctness is stupid and way out of control.