My dilemma is that I have dumped my ex-girlfriend to be with her best friend. The BIG problem with my ex-girlfriend is that she isn't Christian and I have tried to educate her and lead her in the right direction.
I recently revealed to her about having sex with her best friend (my current girl) and that we were having sex for about two or three months now. I used this fact to pressure my ex into changing her blasphemous ways and convert into a good Christian.
Well this backfired, now she's spreading vicious rumours about her best friend and me... she is just vicious and it's like the devil has possessed her.
Please advise me how to proceed in dealing with this venomous woman.
2007-01-01 09:56:29 · 15 answers · asked by Skyeboi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry, she isn't spreading rumours, she's telling the truth.
Typically, "good" Christians don't cheat on their girlfriends with their best friend. Sexually.
Then again, who gets to decide what a "good Christian" is.
2007-01-01 10:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by aj c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain why you would use the fact that you are having sex with your current girlfriend to pressure your ex-girlfriend into becoming a good Christian. This seems to be counter productive.
A good Christian, in your ex's eyes, wouldn't have sex before marriage.
A good person wouldn't go telling his exes that he's having sex with his girlfriend without first clearing it with his girlfriend.
Did you not think that this would backfire? My advice to you is stop... just stop. Don't talk to your ex anymore, and for Heaven's sake please don't try to convert anyone. You are not an example of a good Christian person right now in my opinion. You need to lead by example.
2007-01-01 10:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by purvislets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/AHfQR
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-19 17:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you went the WRONG direction by having sex with your girlfriend's friend to try to convert her. What were you thinking? As a follower of Christ, you are called to set an example for the unsaved.
Now, I'm not saying I'm perfect, because I'm not. But I would never purposely sin in order to convince someone they shouldn't sin. See my point?
When you say it's like the devil possessed her, you're confusing possession with hurt and betrayal. What did you expect her to do? Look at it from her point of view.
It wasn't fair what you did, and you need to understand that.
Please seek forgiveness from God if you haven't already. He'll forgive you. You should also ask your ex to forgive you and your current girl to forgive you.
2007-01-01 10:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dillydally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/ZRaF1
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-28 22:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you are very confused! First of all this is not away to convert someone! You are supposed to lead by example of what a child of God acts like.Then let God do the rest! If anything, I think you may have driven her farther from God. I think you need to ask forgivenes from a lot of people. Start with God, the your girlfriend, then your ex! Re-think about what you have done and get your life with God and the people around you back on track! May God help and guide you.
2007-01-01 10:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Green Volley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only are you a "not very good Christian"- you are also a "not very gentleman". Why the heck did you have to go for the best friend and then tell your ex that you are making love to her (you didn't with your ex?)..... and also: you are not making any sense, because as a good Christian you don't sleep with women before marriage. Stop trying to make other people better people. Start with yourself first. Clearly you have to understand women better for one thing.
2007-01-01 10:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confused here you are the one who dumped her for her best friend and you tell your ex you had been seeing her friend behind her back for a while and you think you are a christian, what church do you go to.
2007-01-01 10:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve it and you are not a very good Christian. You are having sex without being married and you dumped your gf. You were having sex with her bf. Doesn't sound very Christian to me. Sounds like you need educating.
2007-01-01 10:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her talk......now as a Christian, you should be above reproach. Eventually all this will turn around on her.....so let her talk all the smack that she wants too. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-01 10:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋