I went on a great first date Friday night with this guy and he told me to call him whenever I want to get together again or just hang out. I waited a few days to see if he would call me but he didnt. I called him earlier today and left him a message asking if he wanted to do something with me today. I never heard back from him though and he went off to work. He said hello to me yesterday as he passed by my house but no mention of another date. Our date went so well that I am bummed that he hasnt called me. Should I give him time or just move on? He is a kinda shy guy though and always seems to be either at home alone or at work.
2007-01-01 09:51:38 · 17 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That sounds like my experience that's happening right now. There's this guy that tells me to call him or leave him a voice mail, which I do. I got so sick of it that I don't leave him a voice mail anymore and he frustrats me so damn much. I thought about giving up on him too...he even lied to me about him not doing drugs and blah blah.
For yours, if he really likes you then he would do something about it already. I mean you should really quit initiating every move. Just wait some more and if he still doesn't do anything, then I say give up 'cause he's not for you.
2007-01-01 09:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is kind of shy, then I would wait until I was reasonably certain that he was home. Then I would call him and talk with him. I'd tell him that I figured he hadn't called as he was busy or something. Take it from there, and also ask him outright if he is interested in seeing you again. Maybe and this is just maybe he only wants to see you as a friend, and not get involved with you as like a girlfriend. But the only way is to ask him outright. Good luck.
2007-01-01 10:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, slow down, maybe he didn't get you're message, maybe someone erased you're message and didn't tell him, or the electricity went out. Maybe he's feeling insecure like you are. You said he spoke to you the other day. Walk over to his house, see if he wants to share a pizza or something. You say he's shy, well nourish that concept and be a little more available for him to talk to. A good relationship needs nourishing, besides, hes probably hung like a horse, that makes the blood a little slow to the brain.
2007-01-01 10:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. But please, give up on him, but not entirely. Because, as you said, he may be really shy etc...Just act normal if you see him again, wait till he mentions another date. Delete his number aswell to avoid temptation of calling him, and if he's worth it, he'll call you and you'll get his number back. That's what I do. But if you don't hear from him again, what an ********!. Plenty other men out there. Good Luck (don't waste another brain cell thinking bout his ***) xx
2007-01-01 09:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times, guys don't want to hurt girls' feelings so they say what they think a girl wants to hear. But the fact that he told you to call him instead of saying he'll call you tells me that he didn't have as good a time on the date as you did. He wouldn't be so passive otherwise.
2007-01-01 09:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by raduodogi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him not leaving a message and see if he shows any interest, if not move on.
2007-01-01 09:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by K-Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi me personally i would stay friends and find someone else to date because life is to short to wait around for someone to come to there senses and realise what they had and lost and you never know dating someone else may make him jealous and you will get your second date hope this helps.
2007-01-01 10:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by robert p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not call him again, he knows you are interested and the ball is in his court. I don't know if he is interested or not but if he is he will eventually come around. Time will tell....
2007-01-01 09:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just move on because you already made your move and if he doesnt reply then thats his problem, but dont be rude when you see him at work just smile and walk by.
Roxxy
2007-01-01 09:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time...definately.....because shy guys won't as readily show that they're interested....how bout the next time you see him...stop him and try to get him to hang out with you.....hopefully he'll say yes!
2007-01-01 09:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Charishma S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋