OK, me and my bf have been dating about 4 months now. We make out alot, and he likes to kiss pretty low on my chest. The farthest we've gone technically would be 2nd base, and I've done a little over-the-clothes stuff for him. What comes next? I'm only 14, and I don't wanna go real fast, so what can I do to keep him happy and interested???
2007-01-01 09:47:39 · 12 answers · asked by Andi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he likes you then everything you do will keep him interested the best is to do what you feel is correct and i would suggest that means saying no --- if he is after you then he will stick aound like glue if not then he is not worth staying with
2007-01-01 09:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 14. Why are you trying to keep him with you with your body? That's not love. If he loves he will keep being interested whether you guys even kiss or not! Trust me! If it's all about the physical stuff, trust me, he'll be gone right after you have sex with him. Don't do that, seriously! Wait right now and have fun the healthy way. 4 months may seem like a lot but some guys have a way of throwing it away after they get what they REALLY want!
2007-01-01 09:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing comes next. You should tell your bf that you are not ready, and it's moving too fast. Listen, the only thing next is sex. No matter what this guy says, even oral sex is sex. Don't ruin your reputation, and life with your boyfriend at this age. I know the feelings you have for him feel real, and they just might be. But if he loves you, and cares for you, make him pass the test. If he cares, he will wait. Wait as long as you can, and do not give in. You do not want to be the girl that all of the other guys in school want to be with because she's easy, and you don't want to be the girl all of the other girls hate because she's easy. It's no way to live ~ trust me, I was one of the good girls, and have never regretted it.
2007-01-01 09:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love...your 14, what are you trying to do here...
Be smart, do not do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Sex is a very serious thing, and you can get hurt very easily. What your doing now is more than enough. If he really cares for you he will not push you or make you feel like yo have to do more.
If he can not handle this then let him go and find a boy that will treat you with respect. I have a 13 year old daughter...she is very open with me and we have discussed this same thing.
I will not tell you not to go further, because you are going to do what you want to...but I do ask you this...
If you decide you are going to go further and have sex, please use protection, if he refuses then don't do it. You do not want to become a mother at 14!
Talk with your mom, and tell her that you wish to be on birth control, explain to her that you haven't done anything...its just that you would feel better knowing that you were protected if something were to happen down the line.
It is going to be hard for you to talk to her, and for her to listen, but its for your safety, and her piece of mind.
If you feel you can, show her this message and sit and talk with her...she will listen love...
Dr. George Lukacs, PhD. MA
2007-01-01 09:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by ssg_lukacs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14 and should not be in a relationship of this nature.
2007-01-01 09:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe continue with what you are doing. You could try (if you're into this) stirp _______ (i.e. Poker). Or, you could just talk to him and see if he minds waiting untill you're a little older. Tell him how you feel about moving too quickly.
2007-01-01 09:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about keeping him happy and interested but set your boundrys and keep them. If he doesn't respect those, and you, then he isn't worth worrying about! Let him go and find someone you own age who does.
2007-01-01 09:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing until your ready. When girls are too easy I enjoy the ride then dump them for being too easy. You wouldnt want that would you.
2007-01-01 09:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by SlamC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what your doing until your like 16 or something... one step at a time. then when your ready go to third, then home.
2007-01-01 09:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your 14 you should not have to do any thing more than Look pretty.Dont feel like sex is all there is to a boyfreind cause it is not.I hope you take my advice seriously.
2007-01-01 09:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋