Or should I keep looking for a decent girl who would take a guy with kids.
2007-01-01 09:43:53 · 20 answers · asked by Hard Working Man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tried it once, don't do it. It never works
2007-01-01 09:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a really bad idea to get back with your ex just to have "mommy" home. Sometimes getting back together just because of the kids can make matters worse than what they already are.
Think about it do you really want your kids to be around fighting and arguements all the time?? It would be much better if the two of you could sit down and make arrangements for the kids that would allow equal time with the two of you and come to decisions that are good for the children.
As far as looking for another lady, I wouldnt rush it seriously. You really dont want to confuse your kids by bringing different women into your life. Just remeber whatever you do your setting a example for them that they will reflect on for years to come.best wishes.
2007-01-01 20:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Kids have you - concentrate on being a fab dad. When a new woman appears in your life if you have been honest and open with your children they will accept her as your partner - not as a substitute mother. They already have a mother who you will ensure they cherish - however the woman in your life will need to be special; to take on your love of your children, to accept them as a huge part of your life but she should not be put under pressure to be 'mommy!' Good luck and give those kids the very best you can ' cos they will love you and care for you forever!
2007-01-01 18:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by nanaangela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not something you should have random people on Yahoo! Answers decide. Not to mention you've not given us enough info to make a sensible decision. Don't you have more respect for your kids than that? Does she want to come back? Are you guys gonna be miserable and fight in front of the kids? Sometimes it's better to be "from" a broken home than be "in one". Do you understand what that means?
2007-01-01 17:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Never stay together for the sake of the kids - Stay civilised for their sake, but staying together just to play happy families will only result in tears - and you might even grow to resent your children for it!
Move on, don't try to replace their 'mommy' with your new partners, just take things as they come.
Talk to your kids about how they feel - and talk to your ex too. Talking is always good.
2007-01-01 17:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! I am in a similar situation, except I have not left because I am afraid to take dad away, but if I could leave I would. it's not worth all the fighting and hurt.In the long run the kids will be happier with both of you. I want to leave but I am just reestablishing my career and have no where to go or I would leave. If it's really bad visitationis just as good, they WILL adapat. If you guys are happier apart your kids will be happier.
2007-01-01 17:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by theotherside 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what's best for your kids. try to keep your selfish desires out of it if there are any. it's a balance that you need to find. is mommy what is best for my kids -- but will i be miserable with mommy and therefore my kids will suffer in that aspect -- or can mommy and i have a good relationship apart for the kids sake and we both can be happy in new relationships...
good luck.
2007-01-01 17:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by curious_One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the sistuation..is she the mother of the children??? If she is...u must try to work it work...
its ur duty as a husband and father to look out for ur children..
if there is a serious reason u cannot stay together (she is a cheater, or dangerous to the children)
u need ot not use her..and look for a woman u can be in a committed relationship with...
remember..everything u do is imprinted into the minds of ur children...do what is best for them
2007-01-01 17:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by A Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is nothing wrong with your ex then it probably would be a good idea. But, if she's a druggie or an alchohalic no way!
(were you married or dating) (how old are the kids) modify your Q and you can get more specific answers
2007-01-01 17:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just depends on what ur ex did and whether u could forgive her enough to let her back into yours and your children's life. if it is forgivable then id say yes ur children need there mother. if not then why should u feel that just because you have children that you cannot love or be loved by someone else.
2007-01-01 17:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by lregan7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will always have a mom...& dad. Together or apart....What makes u happy will b good 4 your kids in the end...
2007-01-01 17:49:16 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋