My just gave birth to a bueatiful baby boy, she has decided not to keep it due to .....?

Question

Baby Brando was born with Skeletal dysplasia, also known as dwarfism. The baby will only grow up to 3 to 4 feet max, even as an adult. The family tried talking her out of giving him up for adoption, but she was sooo devasted to hear the news. I was happy that nothing happened to my sister while giving birth and the baby was good and healthy. He is good, but not as healthy as we thought. My sister is DETERMINED and this has given me the blues. I WANT TO ADOPT baby Brando. I told my husband about this and he said that would be good since we are the family. But he pointed out 2 things to me: 1. How are you going to tell your sister your plans? 2. Its obvious we will get attached and love him, what happens if she decides she wants the baby back when he is a little older, like 2 or 3. Or sooner.
Here's my question: Has any1 been thru this? How can I break the news? I think she will be furious. She says she never wants 2 c the baby nor have another 1.

Opps! Sorry. My title was supposed to say: My sister just gave birth to a bueatiful baby boy, she has decided not to keep it due to.......

Answer 1

Apparently she sounds young and God gave this child to her for a reason...I had my daughter and she had something wrong; no one would tell me anything until the following night because my husband swore them to secrecy. Well, I got my mother in law and sister in law to spill the beans before he came. She turned out to be a beautiful child with cleft palate. It was hard. When I was younger, kids with problems (mental/some physical) were shifted around family members until someone could help the child. This is sad. First off, her hormones are probably talking and adjusting. If you really feel this is what you want to do is adopt the child...talk to social service and please get in touch with the dwarf organization so you will be fully aware and prepared for what this child will have to go through in life. I would not worry about the sister because there is a long adjustment period about adoption and it is her loss your gain. Wow.

Answer 2

First off, I just want to say that even though I dont know you, I would like to commend you for wanted to take on this little one who will need alot of love and support that I'm sure you and your husband will be fully capable of providing.

Me and my mom went through a situation kinda like this one when I was 15. No, I wasnt the one to have a baby and then give it up. My aunt gave birth to a perfectly healthy girl and then when she was 6 mths old, she feared that she was pregnant again so she wanted to get rid of her 6 mth old baby girl. We took her and got custody and terminated her parental rights and she can never try to take Katie, who is 5 now, from us no matter what. That would probably be the best course for you.

Consult whoever is handling the adopiton and talk to them. Adoption agencies would rather blood relatives adopting before anyone else is considered. They want to keep families together.

As for breaking the news, there's no easy way. Just sit her down and tell her what you're planning. She may get mad but then again she might not. It sounds like your sister would though by your description.

Good luck and I hope you get Baby Brando!!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I have not been through this type of thing myself but I hope that if your sister spends some time with this baby that maybe her heart will open up. Who is so cold that they can resist a baby? I'm sure there was some devastation type feelings at first but I wonder if maybe she is more scared at this point.
I would also talk to her about the fact that little people are accepted in our society now more than ever. There is a TV show based on a family of little people for cryin out loud!

If not, then tell her that you know the perfect home for him. Yours!
She would have little choice, if any, in who adopts him and legal document's would keep him in your home. I want to suggest that you start a diary of this situation immediatly just in case you do have to fight for him in the future.

I am troubled by your statement that he was not as healthy as you thought and granted I do not know about dwarfism but aren't little people just as healthy as "normal" people only shorter?
Please, keep in mind that normality begins at home!

Answer 5

I haven't been through it but I known someone who has. Her sister had been raped and couldn't afford to take care of the baby. She decided to adopt the baby and she says it was absolutly worth it. She went to talk to her sister, and said it would be better if she adopted the baby instead of a stranger. Her sister agreed because she knows that her child is healthy and in capable hands.

You're doing the right thing. I admire you.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

You do what ever you have to do to make that baby a home full of love and happiness. Your sister is doing Brando a great service by giving him up. She knows she cant do it and that's OK.She will be allowing him to go to someone who can instead of hiding her feelings and getting into something she cant handle and then doing something that everyone will regret.Have an open heart and take things one day at a time.GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS YOU .....

Answer 7

I know you love your sister but it's time to think of your nephew now. If you want him and can ado[t him go for it. He has a right to see his family, he didn't ask to be born and surly not as a little person. We face trials each day some accept them others run from the responsibility of them. Good for you for putting the welfare of this beautiful child first. Yes he will have some health problems, but I pray nothing to serious.
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Good Luck

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear this but i am happy that you want to adopt the baby do it if you can it is just another baby that needs to be loved do whats right and give that baby a home.

Answer 9

do you want to continue to have a relationship with your sister? I think this could be a relationship breaker right here. ask your sister what she would think if a member of the family adopted her child. maybe then you'll get a better idea of what your sisters reaction would be. I really don't know what I would do in your situation...

Answer 10

Well after you adopt the baby and have had him for over 6 months he's yours and she can't take him back.Talk to your sister.She'll get over it if she doesn't like it.If she doesn't agree to let you adopt him, you can wait until she signs her rights over then come in as a family member and adopt him through the state.