We lived together for 7 years and he left me to live with another woman for the last 3 months. This is not the first time he has cheated but he says "he has changed" should I believe that? Can people like that change? He calls me everyday and leaves voicemails telling me how much he loves me but when I ask him what he is up to he says it is none of my business if I dont want to be his girlfriend any more. Then he cusses at me and and tells me he doesn't want me back then calls back and tells me how much he loves me. What is his deal??
2007-01-01 09:40:40 · 21 answers · asked by wicked1too 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love, with all due respect...once a cheater always a cheater. First off, why would he cheat on you if he really cared for you...that is not what love is.
Do yourself a favor, cut the strings and find a man that will love you and respect you...someone who has your best interests at heart. There are many fish in the sea and all you have to do is cast a line out.
Be slow in choosing a mate, and be smart in what you do.
Dr. George lukacs, PhD. MA
2007-01-01 09:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by ssg_lukacs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually say that everyone deserves a second chance, but..... The cussing, none of your business thing is a problem. If he had any respect for you, he wouldn't talk to you that way. He would understand that he isn't allowed to speak to you that way. He sounds like an egotistical, arrogant, jacka_s who just wants to see if he's right. If he's right, you'll give him another chance. If he's wrong, you will let him know that you not only deserve respect, you demand it. Tell him that you are no longer interested in what he wants. You deserve respect, MATURITY, and to be with someone who values you. I am sorry, but he isn't the one. Say a final goodbye, be nice, a true Lady, and tell him to not call or come over anymore.
2007-01-01 09:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has issues. Don't even waste your time with him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Maybe he is trying to run game on you to get you back, because the other girl probably kicked his @$$ to the curb, and he has no place to stay. If I was you, don't bother. He is telling you he want you one minute, then the next cussing you and thing. Leave his @$$ alone and move on. You should also ask him if he still living with the other girl, just to see what his response is.
People can change, but in your situation, don't count on it.
2007-01-01 09:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That dude is messed up. The only reason why he keeps going back to you is because he knows he can. And your letting him.
After all the emotional and verbal abuse you've taken, if you were to take him back, I'd say you were messed up too. Break the cycle. Forget him. Move on. There are much better guys out there that will respect you.
Some people can change, but that's usually after the second chance. Not the third, fourth, or fifth.
Good luck.
2007-01-01 09:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by JustAdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the deal is once a cheater always a cheater he needs to decide you or her he cant have cookies and icecream one or the other if he is with another girl after seven years im sorry but he doesnt know what love is he just knows how to say the words you need to decide if you want someone like that untrusworthy and dishonest tell him if he really does love you everything is your buisness at all times but the words have changed mean i have changed until i see another sweet bum i want to grip then i change again back to my old ways and change again for a month or two for you!!!! dont fall into a mouse trap like that dump him hes not good for you you deserve better..
2007-01-01 09:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You are wanting to believe that he has changed, but to answer your question, . . . .no, you shouldn't believe him.
Just remember, if it looks like a cheat, sounds like a cheat, acts like a cheat (more than once) . . . .then he is a cheat, and is it not true that a tiger does not change it's stripes?
If you want to find out for sure, tell him you are wanting to start seeing other guys and see what his reaction is.
Make him do some crawling and begging and see how serious he is, and don't take him back to quick, as that is what he expects you to do.
You need to dump him and find someone new.
Darryl S.
2007-01-01 09:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stingray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he threw you away over some temporary p*ssy that probably left him anyways then realize he is a total scumbag. That is alot of time to invest in someone for them to disrespect you like that. If you take him back you are really a fool. Why would you want to be with a cheating, immoral, azz with a total bad attitude? Move on and don't waste another minute on a guy who can't keep his d*ck in his pants.
2007-01-01 09:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him? Why are you asking strangers if you should take back your cheating boyfriend? Can you not make such a decision yourself? I sure could, after the very first time.
Do what works for you...nobody else can tell you what you "should" do...we can just tell you what we'd do...I'd have left his sorry but after the first screw up...but then I know I'm worth WAY more than that...I don't tolerate such disrespect...there are too many other positive options in this world...
2007-01-01 09:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously don't even bother on returning he's calls, he's playing u really bad and you're looking like the fool and any woman deserves better, change ur phone number and if ever contacts u, tell him u can do better than him and u that u can not believe that after 7 years living together he stilll doesnt give u the respect u deserve. Remeber, "Fool me once, shame on you.. fool me twice, shame on me".
2007-01-01 09:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by kLaUDiA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get back together with him. I actually think there's something wrong with him but that's not the point. Everybody can change but if he cheats more then once, I wouldn't even bother. Hope u make the right decision!
2007-01-01 09:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋