Hi. I am twenty five years old and there is man that Is thirty three years and I believe that he is attracted to me. I catch him staring at me and there are times when he seems to go out of his way to get my attention. I dont mind that he does this,becasue I am attracted to him as well. But there is a catch.. He is already has a girlfreind and they live toghter. I know that there is nothing that I can do about that,and he has never said anything that would make me think that he wants to take it beyond casually flirtation,are interactions are innocent (and they will continue to be that) but yet I cant stop thinking about him.Am i crazy to feel this way? I try to not interact with him,but it is difficult to because Of the complicated social network we are in,and he is difficult to ignore because he flirts alot. (and by the way is joking around flritng?) But my question is how do I stop thinking about him,and are my instinct right in telling me that he is attracted to me?
2007-01-01 09:32:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop now. Don't keep flirting back or making known you are interested. He is no good if he already has a girlfriend and still looking for another.
Stop, look somewhere else, this guy is not good person, he will be unfaithful
2007-01-01 09:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to tell with certified flirts. They may or may not really like you, with guys, I've found, its a thrill (even if they have a girlfriend) for them to get attention that they are still attractive or desirable. If he already has a girlfriend, and he's 30 something, chances are, hopefully, he's mature enough to keep flirting in its proper place, and you too. I personally don't see anything wrong with casual flirting. I think its natural, but when it gets too heavy, and crosses the line when someone starts catching feelings, like you have, then there's a problem.
Here's a way to make yourself stop thinking about him: tell yourself that he would be no good for you, because if he were your boyfriend, I becha he would still flirt with other chicks and because it sounds like you catch feelings easy, you may get your feelings hurt.
Good luck
2007-01-01 09:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to be yourself in front of him and don't hold back. because if you hold back he will think you aren't in to him and he will probably leave.
your instincts are probably flirting with you as well. they are telling you that you must be attracted to him . believe them cautiously because you may think that you are attracted to him but then the next day you look at him in discust.
try to get to know him more before you do anything. he may be trouble since he flirts alot. you never know if he is just wanting to make his nasty move.if he ever does try to get close to that nasty move by moving closer ignore him. walk away something to let him know you arent ready.
if you are still attracted to him, invite him and his girlfriend somewhere and make sure you have a date otherwise it would be really awkward!!! then try to keep seeing that person until the guy leaves you alone and then break up with the other person and lay low for a while. if he starts to talk to you again , then you will know that he still likes you.
tell him you don't want to see him because he already has a girlfriend. then if you dont get your way with him breaking up with her... them apparenetly he isn't that attracted to you. hope you have fun with this and don't let him make a nasty move.
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2007-01-01 09:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy for feeling this way,but you should remember that ifhe already has a girlfriend and is doing this with you, what do you think would happen if you guys got together? he wouldmost likely be happy he got what he wanted from you and do the samething to someone else leaving you to feel used, and hurting your boyfriend, if you have one in the process. Try to channel that energy and excitment into something that would benifit you without any gulity or hurt feelings....Not to mention you don't know if his girlfriend is crazy person who would come after you!
2007-01-01 09:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by theotherside 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not crazy, it's normal to have these thoughts sometimes, and I agree at times they do get in the way of other thinking. Just hang in there. Either that or stick around and maybe their fling won't work out. However, remember, if he will look and flirt with you while pretending to love another, he could also do that to you.
2007-01-01 09:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful with this one because it could get quite messy. There's no point in pursuing him if he lives with someone else unless you're happy to be someone's second choice and like spending your time watching your new man parade around with his live-in girlfriend. I would walk away from this while you have your dignity intact!
2007-01-01 09:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by oscpressgirl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he flirts a lot, he is probably a womenizer.
2007-01-01 10:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋