Okay well here goes:
Me and this girl have been together for quite some time now. I've already told her I really love her (I mean I know she's THE one) but I found out she has a boyfriend. Apparently they've been together for 2 years already and they're still together.
Would it be wrong if I wanted to make her love me instead of him?
Must I wait for them to break up (and I don't think thats gonna happen)?
I've tried poems, I've told her my deepest feelings, I've tried everything I can think of....
I really want this girl and I cant live without her!
HELP ME PLEASE! :(
2007-01-01 09:27:17 · 14 answers · asked by guy_in_love200 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her what she feels and what she wants?? Respect her and show her that you really do care about her.
Ask her if she sees a future for the two of you together or if she is really in love with her boyfriend or not. If she says she doesnt see a future for the two of you together ask her to tell you why she feels the way she does.
Dont badger her though or harass her if she tell you the truth you need to concentrate on yourself for a change.
As hard as it is sometimes people just cant or wont give us the love back we want in return. Look at the positive things in your life and what you want to accomplish. Set some goals for yourself and start feeling better about yourself or in new ways.
She may see the difference and realize how wrong she is .. if not you will start feeling better about the future.
2007-01-01 09:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" someone love you. If you've been together "for quite some time now" you must not know her very well if she has a boyfriend that you only just now found out about. You sound like you're just about to cross over from admirer to stalker. If she hasn't returned your affections by now, she isn't going to. Besides, if shes is messing around with you when she's had a boyfriend for the past two years, what makes you think she'll be any more faithful to you?
2007-01-01 17:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tried poems, gifts, and told her, mmmmmmmmmm , nothing seems to work mmmmmm. I ask you a question lets say if you was going with a girl for 2 years and this guy tried to get her from you and she said no, ignored him, or was just friends. Wouldn't you respect her for being true to you and not the pick up guy. Leave her alone and find someone else. Respect her dedication to her bf.
2007-01-01 17:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by jusjoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Desperate
You need to let this one go for its obvious that she is NOT the one that one girl you want and can't have maybe but NOT the one for you the ONE for you is that girl who is single who will read your poems love them and when you share your deepest feelings towards her she will do the same for you please let this other girl go she won't leave her man for you not now not ever
2007-01-01 17:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, and if she's happy with this other guy, then you have to let her go. If she's happy this way, and you really love her, then you'll have to let her be happy. If she happens to break up with this guy, and wants you, then go for it! If she doesn't love you after you've expressed your deepest feelings for her, then don't even bother, because it seems like she doesn't love you back.
2007-01-01 17:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, i had the same problem. I really like this girls, and i found out she had a bf, and she like him to death, and i love her to death, but I had to realize that it will be impossible for us to be togather, and I want her to be happy, so i did not want to create any problems between her and her bf. so I would suggest you the same. you will be a lot happier and she will be a lot happier and that is the main idea. so forget her and try to find some else. i have not been succesful at finding some else but have a feeling that i will. anyhow good luck!!
2007-01-01 17:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Linux7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you, but I think you need to move on. Cry, punch something, eat ice cream (hey, it works for girls!) and find someone new. If she's been with this guy for 2 years, I don't think breaking up is in their future. Move on. Keep her as a friend, but set your sights on someone new.
2007-01-01 17:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by miz e. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you haven't been together, you've been friends. She's not "the one" if she's with someone else. You already tried things that most of us would not. Let her go, you can find better.......
2007-01-01 17:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by DWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really unfair that she has lead you on and that you didn't out about this boyfriend of hers until you two were further down into the relationship...
2007-01-01 17:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting played. Time to move on. And you can and will live without her, trust yourself. No one should have that kind of control over your life...especially one who's playing you.
2007-01-01 17:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋