I have been seeing this girl that I really like. I know she likes me but I think I like her way more. I was reading a book and it says that women don't like clingy guys because it shows insecurity. Therefore, guys should be cocky and only show slight interest. Ex, not calling too much, not complimenting her, not paying for everything, etc.
I've been trying this and it is suppose to make the girl crazy over you. But to me, this has little effect.
So do you girls like overly attentive guys or cocky, don't give a crap about her guys?
2007-01-01 09:19:46 · 13 answers · asked by tarzan428 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The book you read, if it's the one i think it is then he says cocky and FUNNY. Cocky alone comes across arrogant and insecure, and women will suspect you are trying to hide something, and thats not likely to earn trust. So cocky and funny! Another thing, women don't like to be ignored, they love attention. But by giving them too much attention is just being like a regular average guy, nobody likes average. So by making yourself less available gives her the gift of missing you. The thoughts she has about you will be more intense because she hasn't seen you 24/7. It will also make you both appreciate the time you spend together way more. Which will add more spark to the relationship.
Just my opinion, but i firmly believe in it.
2007-01-01 09:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we are just like guys. We don't like clingy because then it is like get away from me. Before my ex and i started dating he was like that and it made him seem too needy. We do not want a man to do whatever we say and bend over backwards for us.We want him to have a sense of self and confidence. We want freedom, we don't want him to call us every minute of the day. With the cocky part of it I like when a guy can be a jokester and sarcastic in that way but still be a nice guy. Compliment us yes, but not excessively then it seems like you don't mean it. Basically we want a guy right on the middle not too needy and we definately do not want a guy that is gonna totally be a jerk and ignore us.
2007-01-01 09:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when a guy ignores me. Not that I need to be the center of his universe. But i had this one boyfriend who would completely ignore me. He would ask me to a movie or dinner or something, and I would arrive and all his friends would be there! I mean yeah I like his friends and all but seriously he could of given me a heads up. The worst of it was that while on our date?(if you could call it that) he would completely ignore me and focus all his attention on his friends. Lets just say the relationship didn't last very long.
I think that girls like the extra attention, just know when to give her some space and you'll do fine. Nobody likes the boyfriend who calls her everyhour on the hour. You know just to make sure shes ok.
Its all about finding a balance that works for both of you. Every girl is different, so if you feel like your spending way to much or to little time with your girl, just ask her how she feels about it.
2007-01-01 09:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls like to play games; those are the ones that like guys who ignore them.
Other girls like guys who pay attention to them, but understand the importance of both partners having time for themselves or with their own friends.
Never pay so much attention to a girl that she has total control over you; she'll just lose respect. Be courteous and loving, but make time for yourself, too.
2007-01-01 09:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Iris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Life isn't one extreme or another. Clingy/needy is annoying...cocky/arrogant is a turnoff. Find a happy medium, that's where most of us like it...attention and affection, but not velcro'd to our hip.
2007-01-01 09:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls do not like to be ignored, do you? Treat them like you would like to be treated, be kind, polite, thoughtful and caring and you will do just fine. There are way too many "nothings" in this world, be something better and watch the girls appreciate you.
2007-01-01 09:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by kimballama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is stupid i would love for any man to show me some attention. i would not want an arrogant or cocky man that to me would be annoying and hurt full.
2007-01-01 09:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is OVERLY attentive. flattering at first... annoying LATER. be attentive but dont OVER do it. girls like attention and some TRUE flattery. if you dont overdose it... attention is good. the whole cocky thing? that gives the impression of arrogance...
2007-01-01 09:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We do not like clingy guys.
But alot of us do like attention. Like calling, and getting compliments and stuff.
Show her your a gentleman and she may show more interest in you.
The reason you think she may not be as into you as you are into her is because you dont show her the attention she would like so she may be scared to show you her affection. =]
2007-01-01 09:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by =] 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
♥ Yeah, I'm kinda like that. As soon as guys give me all their attention I'm like so not interested in them anymore, but if they ingore me I'm constantly thinking about them and wondering whats going on-it's totally weird why it happens like that. ♥
2007-01-01 09:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by ღ|l°Coltrane°l|ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋