Suspious, worried I need help?

Question

Ok A 2 days ago me and my family came back after going to dinner. My Dad Went to sleep but me and my mom sat on the sofa and talked. After a while I noticed several (5-6) bruises on her legs. I asked her what it was and she said that for some reason she never got hurt their but those bruises just appeared. I was a little suspious but I waited for another day. The next day everthing was fine. But today morning i noticed another (pretty big) bruise on her arm. I remember from a couple of years ago that one of the bruises on her leg were their. My Family has always been a loving family and we have always been together. But Now I am Very Scared That My Dad May Be hitting her. i know he has not done anything to me. I am just suspious so should i worry, or what should i do? Please help. Thanks

PS - Knowing my family this sounds like its my imagination

Well thanks guys but i am not even sure at ALL. Also My Mom Is Never with my dad when im not there. I will watch more carefully but i dont want to say more yet. Thanks

Well I Am Actullay living in the house and she is almost 40

She actullay said she did get it checked out but they said it was nothing

I talked to her and she said they have just been appearing

Answer 1

Some people do bruise easily, like me. If I bump into the smallest thing, I get a bruise. However, this sounds like it may be more than that. Your mother could be doing something to herself that she shouldn't (could be some type of depression) or you may be correct that there could be some sort of abuse. My advice to you is to just tell the truth to your mother. Tell her you've noticed brusing, that you're worried, and that you're not so stupid as to just expect she'll make some excuse and it will go away.

You may also want to talk to someone that you trust, like a school counselor, clergy member, etc.

Answer 2

Well you know it could be, I can't tell you, It will put an image in your head that may lead you to vomit, Oh well here it goes, it could be that they have rough sex, you say no, but you don't know what mom and dad are like behind closed doors. If this is really bothering you then ask your mom next time when you and her are alone about those bruises, just let her know that you have been noticing them and they have you worried and if she could tell you it will stop your mind from making up its own conclusions. It could be that mom is clumsy, or it could be she is taking blood thinner and she bruises easily now, or your dad has been having bad dreams. It sometimes doesn't take alot to bruise a woman, I would ask her just the same. Good luck.

Answer 3

Don't worry yet.... you'll be able to read it in your mothers face if it were something to worry about. I answered because I get bruises all the time. I can bump into the furniture on my way our of a room and the next day I have a bruise. Sometimes I have no idea how they got there. I promise I am not being hit. It's just the way it is and always has been for me.... and maybe for your mom too. She's lucky to have someone like you looking out for her. Keep your eyes open ... but don't worry too much yet.

Answer 4

It could be a lot of things. She could have paler skin due to wintertime and you are noticing marks more easily. It could be that she is sleepwalking. It could be a medical issue that is causing her to bruise more easily. It could be that someone is hitting her. It could be that she is trying out new things in the bedroom that are more physical (sorry, I know this is your mom and i'm not trying to gross you out). Ask her, and let her know that you are concerned. If it is sleepwalking or a medical condition, or abuse, she should talk to her doctor. Don't accuse your dad, you don't have enough to go on, yet. You don't want to hurt him, too, if it is unneccessary, and it sounds like he is still very loving. She would maybe act more fearful around him if that was a problem.

Answer 5

if your mother is really evasive about the bruises then i would worry. bruises do not just appear. my old man was always " a real good person" when out in public, but when he got us home he would beat mom and us kids with whatever he could find, switches, hoses, his fists it didn't matter and he would tell us"if you say anything to anybody about this i will hurt you or kill you. he kept mom in line by telling her he would kill us kids. try to get more information from your mother, there is no reason for abuse of any kind and if its happening ? It should be stopped. IMMEDIATELY

Answer 6

I actually looked that way for a while.
Just two years ago- My immune system was weak and bruised horribly evertime I had anything happen.

A cop asked me in a grocery store about and I told him I had fallen from a ladder bruised my right neck/collar arm and leg and on a rainy morning slipped off the running board on my car and had a bruise on my left forearm and my infant son kicked my left eye while nursing and blackened it. all in one week- all true. He was not convinced- guess it sounded to madeup for one week of mishaps and he asked for my driver's license and asked if he could stop by next week or in the future.

He did and I actually tripped OUT the front to greet him- into his arms. He laughed and said you really are a Klutz- what a relief.
My husband heard me yell and came running around the corner. They both laughed and agreed that I was both stubborn and silly.
Gee thanks!

Good luck.
As we age- my legs bruise really really easy now, I don't notice them and friends and husband do.
You mom will confide in you or a minister, so maybe you should ask the trusted friend or minister to come by and chat.

Answer 7

If you haven't noticed any changes in your mother's behavior, then I wouldn't worry about it. I've gotten similar bruises before and I usually have no clue as to how they get there. I sometimes get asked that question too - "What happened to your leg?" And I look down and realize what they're talking about - "I have no idea! I don't remember banging in to anything." It may be an age thing - the older people get, the easier they bruise - especially women.

Answer 8

It is too much for you to handle on your own. Get a family member who cares about your mother involved. If you confront her, she might not tell you the absolute truth not wanting you to worry or thinking that you are too young to handle it. Get another adult involved and keep an eye open on your parents interactions. Do not be afraid to call the police if you think that you mother might be in danger. You might be the immediate help that your mother has right now. Be alert and tries to get someone involved as quickly as possible. Domestic abuse is a serious issue and may even be fatal.

Answer 9

Ask her if there is a history of Diabetes in her family. Let her know that you are quite aware of the bruises that keep appearing. Voice your concerns about your mother's health to your dad. If he is hitting her, at least he'll know that someone else is watching.

Answer 10

Large bruises don't just magically appear by themselves. You should be concerned. Talk to your mom and let her know that you are concerned and that IF your dad is hitting her that she should get help and not put up with it. Tell her you love her and are there for her.