its not unrequited love cos i know he feels the same, but i'm sick of him not making his mind up.........one day we are just friends the next he wants sooo much more(and no i havent slept with him). i know i need to get him out of my head...........i just find that sooo hard to do................any ideas??????????
2007-01-01 08:53:59 · 13 answers · asked by life_vamp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW!
i was in the SAME situation a couple of weeks ago
___my situation___
*found out that he wasn't so great after all because he's just playing around with me
*didn't like being seen as a "back up" plan if he couldn't be with this other girl...makes him like a player even though he admitted he would never be with 2 girls at a time, because i know that if he couldn't get her/fell out with her, he'd come running back to me...stupid -,- (which he did do...)
*noticed how cold and insensitive he was when i told him i like him a lot more than he thinks
*realised that even though he may have told me at times he REALLY likes me, has strong feelings (almost love) for me... it is not as much as he says it is because why why why did he not just plain and simply ask me out and be my boyfriend?
*he literally REJECTED me when he found that the other girl likes him alot too...
*now i do not speak to him via MSN or phone (since xmas eve), even when i do contact him via text or post on his personal page to wish him a merry christmas/happy new year, i do not expect a reply.
*i've not seen him for a few weeks too
___i got him out of my head by simply___
*enjoying myself with friends, during the xmas/new years
*talked to my close friends about the problem to get it out of my head
*bitched about how fricking horrible he is to do that to me
*made a list why he is such a loser
and i just got back home from a new years event in london =D
it was sooooooo good!!! and i didn't even think about him once!
i was all dolled up and feeling my best ;) got rather alot of attention and PARTIED ALL NIGHT! but no i did not throw myself at anyone :p
___since the holidays are over i'd advise you to___
*write a list why he is such a loser
*b!tch about him to close friends and laugh about it
*go out and have a good time with ur friends
*go shopping or do something u really enjoy to past ur time
*make urself more beautiful like get a new hair cut, manicure, etc. etc. and just attract attention, not like wear "barely there" clothing but just sexy and sophisticated, just so that u know that there are OTHER men who are interested in you.
*if you feel like it, get involved with someone else, who WILL NOT treat u like how he did! don't rush yourself
*ALWAYS ALWAYS keep busy, because I KNOW that when u are bored and alone ur mind tends to wander and think about that same stupid person again
Hope this helps
GOOD LUCK
HAPPY NEW YEARRRRRRR!!!!
take care from kimee xxx
p.s. there may be good memories, cherish them, but don't dwell in the past...
Never never wait on someone who messes with your emotions, you'd never guess what happens IF they actually became your partner
2007-01-01 09:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make a final decision..... He is obviously not being honest or is not ready to have a proper relationship.
It's great you haven't slept with him.... you would feel so much worse.
Timeis the only answer and keeping really really busy. Get out and about. This time next week/month you will feel very different.
I was seeing a guy before Christmas and he was playing the same game with me. It's called 'blowing hot and cold'.
When I decided it was over I felt so much better. Hell, you deserve so much more! As soon as I made the decision I wasn't going to take any more of the games I felt so relieved, like a burden was lifted from my shoulders.
And guess what, he started texting and e-mailing how much he wanted me.... no way was I going back! He can play his games elsewhere!
I am sure you would not do this to someone else you cared about. Be strong and brave and move on......fast!
2007-01-01 09:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him, tell him he either makes up his mind and sticks to it or you will never see him again.
and you must mean it, you cant be friends or anything like that or the pain will just go on and on, a clean break is the only way, then you can have a bit of a cry, [if he cant make up his mind] and you must keep yourself busy, see friends, take up a hobby or something, I always find Terry Pratchett books are just the thing, eventually you will find you havnt thought about him for ages...
Good luck! we all go through this at some time, so dont feel alone!
2007-01-01 09:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy, I just posted a similar question. If you ever find out how, please, let me know. I know how hard it is...............but believe me, you'll make it. It takes time. I know because he left me once and now he came back and left again before coming down to see me. He plays with my emotions and I told him to stay away from me till he knows what he wants out of life. He is an old man, 64 and I am 52...........but love knows no age, right? Soooooooo......it did hurt, but I had to do so in order to be not get even more hurt. Good luck.
2007-01-01 08:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by blueyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
Actions speak louder than words and time is fleeting.
The best thing for you to do is tell him-
Yes we are an item or No we are not- no middle ground.
If he doesn't Jump on YES- really quickly the answer is no.
Move on by serving others and keeping busy both body and mind.
Charity work and volunteer and give to others and it will fill your broken heart.
2007-01-01 09:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with the girls, have fun!!
Its not easy when you have strong feelings for someone. Whats holding him back? Who makes all the moves? It sounds like he is either genuinely confused or just taking you for granted. Good luck, and have fun.
Respect to you for not sleeping with him!! x
2007-01-01 08:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by katyllou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just distract yourself with things like films, books, seeing friends and going for walks.
Time will make it better, just do what you can to pass the time till you feel better.
2007-01-01 08:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is move on and find someone new who can treat you right!!!good luck
2007-01-01 08:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about him/her. There are plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-01-01 08:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have fun, keep busy but most of all keep your self respect tell him to get lost and stick to it
2007-01-01 10:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by daveshadydave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋