Would you buy your daughter birth control?

Question

If you found out your daughter was "being" with her boyfriend,would you take her to get birth control and be accepting or would you make her break up with the guy and risk having her sneak around.My daughter is only 7 but I worry about her in the future and what should I do.

I don't mean for her now at her age,I only meant I was thinking about that subject for when she's older.Come on,I'm not that stupid people

OMG! Sorry if I worded my question wrong

Answer 1

I would have to agree with lilla.
Make her go and purchase it and if she is too embarrassed, then she doesn't need to be having sex.
I don't agree with teen sex,but......they will sneak around and do it.So, its better to be on the safe side.
Also,start getting her active in extra curricular activities now.
And try to keep her as busy as possible when she hits those teen years.I have a friend that keeps her daughter in sports such as dance class,sports,cheerleading ect...lol...that poor kid doesn't even have time to think about sex.Also, it helps them become more responsible.A well educated and responsible teen is less likely to .......... act out as often.

Answer 2

No, I wouldn't. I would make sure she knows about menstruation at 13 or 14, before it happens. Don't let her take boys into her room or hide with them for very long, as long as she is living at home. By the time she is 16 or so make sure you teach her about the facts of life, how babies are made, how you can catch HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. That the best way to avoid all these is to not have sex. That sex before marriage is a sin. But when she is older it is her choice. Tell her if she does have sex , the safest way is with a steady boyfriend and she should be on the pill. Condoms have a 40% failure rate, in my opinion that is too high a risk. Impress upon her that she is still very young and shouldn't have to worry about all this for a long time yet. When she is well armed with all this knowledge, you have done the best you can. Good job.

I wouldn't ever force my daughter to break up with a boyfriend, I would tell her openly that I think he is bad for her and that she deserved to be treated better, but that it is up to her. (Unless he did something really bad, then I would have him arrested). There is a lot you can do to prevent them being together without causing a war between you and your daughter. Give her love and the truth, you are a good, caring parent.

Best wishes and Happy New Year!

Answer 3

It would depend on the age of the daughter. I had a daughter who had a child at 16 because she was "being" with her boyfriend and I didn't know it. With what I know now, I would have put her on the pill. If you become angry and tell her she can't see him anymore she will sneak to be with him. There is really nothing you can do about it because you cannot keep her under lock and key. The best thing would be to take her to a doctor and get her on birth control. I have an 8 1/2 year old grandson that I dearly love and my daughter finished high school with the rest of her class and has supported herself and her son since.

Answer 4

Yes I would. Better birth control pills than becoming a 'surprise' grandmother. You must educate her, begin now, preach abstinence, tell her about how important it is to respect herself and her own body, what a great gift it is. If you start now, by the time she reaches puberty she will have had several years of training from you. Above all, always be open, tell her that if she is thinking of having sex she needs to tell you so that you can plan together for birth control, disease control. Never act surprised or shocked, it is the quickest way to get them to quit confiding in you. Above all, you always want to know what is going on, even if it is something you don't like.

Answer 5

Yeah, I'd do everything I could to educate her and give her the opportunity to get contraception if she chose to be sexually active -- by doing this, I'm not only gaining more control over what she learns, and transmitting MY values; I'm also giving her the capability of making a truly informed decision for herself, which a person must know how to do in order to grow up and be responsible for herself. A girl who is forbidden to be sexual not only sneaks around, but doesn't really understand the risks she takes. If she has to go get examined and take pills, it brings home the reality of the risks she's choosing, on purpose, to take.

Answer 6

Way to think ahead lady! Awesome! I have a 17 year-old and she is protected from unwanted pregnancies with the pill but there is no 100% protection from AIDS except abstaining from sex.
Most young men are into "quantity" and very few are faithful at that age so my concern is where and who my daughter's partner has been with... very complex and difficult but hopefully your daughter will take it all as serious as it needs to be. Good luck in the coming years... education is the key.

Answer 7

No, I would not buy birth control for anyone. If they are old enough to have they should be old enough to pay for their own pills. I think, that paying for pills makes it seem like a parent thinks premarital sex is okay and it isn't. I would not do anything to encourage immorality. I would talk to her through the years and train her up in the way she should go. Everyone has a freewill so if she would choose sin shame on her. I will not be a partner in her sin. Birth control pills also mess with body chemistry and I would not want to be a partner in encouraging something that has potential for harm. Plus, the only 100 per cent safe birth control is abstinence.

Answer 8

These day kids are having sex younger and younger...for those of you who say that she has a long time. Talk to her and develop and "open" relationship with her as she gets older and give her the option to get birth control. Kids who can talk to their parents are usually more responsible and seek advice from the right source.

Answer 9

Well, I believe that 7 is to young for her to be on the pill as her body has not developed probably yet. Maybe asking you doctor is the best bet. And if you know for sure that they are you know well then maybe a talking to is the best and try to develop a realtionship with her about that kind of stuff. So that she has confindence in talking to you about those kind of things. Plus come to think bout it dont think she would fall pregnant at this stage, but i understand what you mean about her future. I hope this helped.

Ok so not at 7 srry bout that. But i think if you start a relationship where she knows she can talk to in confidence about those things then mayeb you could both agree when she gets older. I mean who didnt fool around at a young age we were alll curious werent we.

Answer 10

Ok I will say yes my mom did for me when I was 15 and I'm grateful I didn't have my 1st child until I was married and 25! My son is 3 and I still won't let him play with a girl in a closed room alone well I don't let him play in a closed room period. Children are curious and its our responsibility to make sure they learn what they need to know and when. Try to keep her in activities that are appropriate for her age thats our plan but there gonna come to you eventually and I think my husband would disagree but I would definately get the birth control but until then we are teaching no sex period but if you remember you didn't always do what your parents said. Good Luck with this.