I was friends with a guy for 3 months and liked him and wanted to be with him until a week ago he told me he had a gf. I backed off of him because Im not trifling even though he offered to leave her for me. Anyways a month ago I did him a favor by checking out two library books for him and their due tomorrow. I've asked him over the course of our friendship 5 or 6 times to turn them in or to give them to me but he hasn't did either. I'm mad because he's making the entire situation more complicated than it needs to be. I stopped calling him like that and we never had any type of sexual relations, we were friends. I texted and called him earlier today for my books. I don't want to go to his house or job but I will if I have to. Luckily I was able to renew them for two more weeks but I still need to get them because they were expensive books. What should I do? Oh and he's out of my life for sure after this its definitely a New and Better Year for me.
2007-01-01 08:47:48 · 10 answers · asked by TILAC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess he is upset you turned down his offer to be with him
i have a few questions....how could you know a guy for three months and not know he had a girlfriend.......sounds like to me he forgot to inform you,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and that is not a good friend who keeps his girlfriend a secret....would he do the same to you.
in the future you never, never get , borrow or loan things to guys...it only cause problems like you are experiencing now......if they want something bad enough then they will get or buy on their own
as for getting back the books......go to the library and see if they will help you by calling him or sending a letter because it is their property...and they want it back......if they can not help you go to his mom...tell her you need to return the books.....going to his job only causes drama....that makes you look bad.....or approach the school for help......having a third party get involved puts him on the spot.....and avoids you looking like a stalker....cause he wants you to look bad in this situation.......not him...even though he is causing the problem.
good luck
2007-01-01 09:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I'm glad to see that you have chosen to move on with your life!
You need to demand your things back. If you know where he lives. Call him and TELL him that you're coming over to get the books, or payment for the books. When you get there, if he doesn't have either, then you have to be completely through with him.
I understand where you're coming from, because 1) I had a boyfriend that took my digital camera.... actually, I left it at his house, but he always "forgot" to bring it back, and 2) I work at a bookstore; they aren't cheap!
Anywho, I don't know how much they are, but if you're speaking about textbooks, the two books could amount to around $260, plus the late fee. Luckily, you don't have to pay it that exact day. If you want, you can take it up in court, if you have proof that you lended him the books, he hasn't returned them, and he said he's not going to, or he ignores your phone calls.
Also, you could just not pay for them, but you wouldn't be able to check out books from there anymore. If this library is owned by the county, you won't be able to check out any books from any county library.
2007-01-01 09:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by mizz_milk06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear- lesson learned- let it go and move on.
Just wrap up the paperwork and blow him off sister.
Okay- go to the library
talk to the person IN CHARGE- no one else.
they will work a payment plan for you and keep to it
It is so "worth it" trust me. That lesson is still cheaper than a real divorce and custody Battle. Take it as a reminder.
I would actually keep a library book mark in your purse to remind you to do better research in relationships and check them out before investing any money into them.
He is not a friend or anything to or for you - don't waste another drop of energy on him for any reason.
Happy New Year. Release the past and grow.
2007-01-01 08:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-25 20:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask a police officer 2 accompany U 2 his place 2 pick them up...
it is a free service that they provide :)
2007-01-01 11:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by katwaxr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to his house, go to his job, whatever it takes. if this is his only way of keeping in contact with you than its pathetic. otherwise, he's just being inconsiderate of you and you don't have to tolerate it. if you go to his house or better yet his job and ask for the books back it will probably embarrass him enough to give them back.
2007-01-01 08:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go over there and get what rightful yours
2007-01-01 08:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Queen T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
key his car
2007-01-01 08:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Abu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sue him.
2007-01-01 08:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-01 08:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋