since we broke up we talk many times a day on msn and see each 2-3 times a week but alway when she want and usually only when she needs something.Just one example she was a little short for x-mass dinner which she throws every year so i ended up spending over $300 on her dinner and spent most of the time prepare and helping with dinner like i used to when we where together and she spent most of the time with family and stuff.But when the nite was over i went to leave and she would not even get up to see me to the door or a hug pr anything until i asked.(but just to let you know we hug every time we see each ohter) Am i being stupid or not i am still trying to get back with her and she just say's she is trying to figure her self out which i resect and giveing her time to do but i just feel taken advange of .I just need a women point of view pls help me
2007-01-01 08:41:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to let you know alittle bit we have kids together and have know each other for 26 yrs and been together for 14 yrs
2007-01-01 09:05:52 · update #1
My partner and I broke up at one stage because I needed to work some stuff out. We kept in touch and he would help me out but I would never ask him to do anything for me. He wanted to.We are all different but I do think your ex was cold towards you and it seems that maybe she was using you. At the end of the day you know her we don't. What does your gut instinct tell you?
Best of luck
2007-01-01 08:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I apologise in advance - but are you for real??? Lucky you had $300 spare! Stand back and take a look - you are being taken for a mug. I am a woman and either she is a good lay (if so she is still very expensive and still taking the michael -but hey that's the way some guys think!) or, heaven forbid you see her as your future! Say goodbye, write off the cash and move on......
2007-01-01 08:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by nanaangela 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... If you feel that you have been taken advantage of then stand up for yourself and just don't do it. If you feel it is right, you may also consider telling her how you felt and how you would like to see things happen in the future.
Everyone is just trying to figure all kinds of things out. Have compassion for others, but most of all love yourself!
Take care,
Namaste.
2007-01-01 08:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Just2BMe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen. If she needs to figure herself out...would she not want space? She knows you still want her so she wants to be "single" when she wants and she wants to have you-playing the boyfriend role- when she wants. I am not saying not to be friends but $300 is not ALITTLE sort on cash...and you were her helper on Xmas. NO... let her know that if she needs to figure things out then you guys need to separate till she does because she is playing with your head and sending mixed signals
2007-01-01 08:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's using you, but you are letting her. If she said she wanted time to figure herself out, then you should give her just that. Stop being there for her. You are around when it's convenient for her. If you want her back, you need to give her that time she asked for. She will learn to be careful what she asks for. Tell her that you want to step back and give her that space. Stop running to her everytime she needs you or wants you to.
2007-01-01 08:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say cut your ties with her for the new year and look for a new friend. You're being used for sure. Sorry.
2007-01-01 08:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She´s not taking advantage of you.....she just needs a friend who she can trust en lean/count on en since u´ve been with each other b4 that makes it easier for her to ask you for favours.
2007-01-01 08:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Think Big!!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
better to let go now. dont make things harder on yrself by hanging out so much. try to go out more with friends maybe date someone new. read tips on dating and relationships to help you more on this site
2007-01-01 08:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
someone can only use you if you let them. continue what you are doing, or put a stop to it. if you chose to stop and dont here from her anymore then she wasnt really your friend to begin with.
2007-01-01 08:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and talk to her.
She will answer this question if you ask her.
2007-01-01 08:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋